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3634haruo is offline 3634haruo Post #71  July 25,2007, 10:21pm
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hi Kat:

let him go, better at the beginning then string him along and he is not getting out of the relationship that he desires. be frank from the start, is it friendship or a relationship you want? and tell him what you would like. This way he makes the decision and you don't look like a heal if you break up with him. He knows what you expect from the start. He is either going to walk away or be your friend. Be honest with your emotions, if you realy like him and want a relationship with him then tell him that, don't suppress or hide your feelings. Most guys want to know right away. No time to waste in this world many others to see and do things with.
 
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I agree with Chereee as to what this article had to do with over coming shyness. Wallflower is me completely. Being a para from the age of 11, I have always felt completely uneasy in the approach of asking a beautiful woman out on a date, so I have dealt with it by never doing it. You can not be rejected if you never put yourself in a position to be. But alas what have I missed out on in life by never really risking that feeling of rejection. Also what an ass am I to assume that all ladies would automatically reject me based on the fact that I'm in a chair.

I was interested in reading all the response to this article though over the use of the "nice guy". Truly I'm a nice guy, with a huge untapped loving heart, who would be up front & honest & truly accept that in return, but in our current society do the "nice guys" really come in last? What do women really want? Kind of the reason I joined Eharmoney. I wanted & needed to learn & grow at this point in my life. I have accomplished the non-love aspects of my life to the point that would I do for a living (independent filmmaker) is my bliss/my dream come to true. Now it is the time to fix hole in my intimate life.
So I thank all of you for your input to this non wallflower ( article 8-) ) & hope that when it comes time to be the rejector or rejectee I will do it/accept it with dignity & grace, based on what I have read here today. Peace, Brett

PS As I good friend recently told me NO just means Next Opportunity, don't take it personally.
 
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OLLIE, you are in that situation NOW!!! Make a decision with your head, not your heatt!!!TJ, If you are intersted, GO AFTER HIM AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!! I like you Patty!!! Good point Vicki "2". Yeh, Ruth and Deborah!!! For Gloria, it does not matter how much you love someone, if they don't love you back, there is nothing that YOU can do to change how THEY feel about you. Move on. God will provide you with your true soul mate. You will be suprized how many people you will fall "IN LOVE" with in your life- time. The important thing is, is that you have "LOVED"!!! I like this, "NO" JUST MEANS "Next Opportnity". GOD BLESS TO ALL AND I HOPE WE ALL FIND OUR ONE TRUE LOVE, I AM SURE WE WILL!!!
 
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When it is the first interaction or just a compliment rather than a line that will lead me into conversation, I say "I know". It sounds arrogant but to me it's a complete acceptance. If someone judges me innaccurately through those two words, I'm not looking for him anyway.
 
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Hi Brett:

I like the answer of "No" means next opportunity. Puts the damper on rejection.

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donny is offline donny Post #76  December 2,2007, 8:24am
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For men, friendships and love grow from very different soils and are nourished by very different circumstances. Women can, and do, create friendships from a beginning of general, sociable conversation which affably widens out to encompass many things, discover they are kindred spirits and be general, all-purpose friends. Men can grow friendships only among fellow participants in a particular activity over a period of time, when they both derive similar satisfactions from that particular activity. If you observe the men around you, you'll see that they generally have different friends for each activity in which they participate, who have little if any inter-action with his friends from other activities. Often times, a man's best and most long-term friends will have never even met each other. A man approaches a woman with a particular activity in mind - romance - if they click, they will probably find other activities which they can enjoy together and become friends regarding that activity;... but he can never be 'just friends', or want to, or even know how to try. And he can never be without sexual desire for you.
All this of course is a 'left brain-right brain' testosterone thing and men with a more pronounced 'dreaded sensitive feminine side' are obviously much more capable of all-around friendships with women.
 
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LawyerDan is offline LawyerDan Post #77  August 19,2008, 9:45am
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