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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #61  April 28,2011, 8:40pm
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FaintestInkling wrote :
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As I was typing that other message, she sends me a text message saying, "I was actually [at a specific, plausible work-related obligation tonight]!

But this weekend I am going to New York to visit a friend of mine. I wasn't originally planning on it, but the tickets were really cheap!"

Oh brother.


I'm ignoring her. What a pain.

I can see why she asked the "are you a trusting person" first question.

EDIT: She told me about this friend in New York, btw, and mentioned visiting her from time to time---so ... again, plausible. But again---no reference to the future, initiation of planning or rescheduling, etc.

She is a twit!!!! Now you know.

No more wondering about it. You are free.

Say this with me. NEXT!!!!
 
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Lindac7 is offline Lindac7 Post #62  April 28,2011, 10:21pm
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FaintestInkling,

I'm truly sorry things worked out as they did with her. It seems to me if she lost interest or whatever her reason was for not firming up plans with you, she could have just told you.

Again, I noticed in her last text to you, all she did was explain what she had been doing. She never actually responded to your request for a date, or made an attempt to get back with you on your original agreement which she breached. This kind of behavior is just immature and inexcusable for a supposedly mature adult man OR woman.

Clearly she's not worth your time. Be thankful you didn't waste any more time on this one than you did. The sooner you find out these things, the better. Then you can move on to better opportunities.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #63  April 28,2011, 11:08pm
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She looks like the kind of girl who likes to string people along. This is why she tells you she's going to N.Y. this weekend so she's made you aware she is completely busy but not offered an alternative date.

She doesn't reference your suggestion to meet up because either

a)she is too spineless to say "thank you but you aren't for me".

or

b)she's a game player and wants you to keep trying/asking for another week or month or months. And if at some point in the future she needs to fill an evening then she'll take up an offer and enjoy a date and aim to pay for nothing.

Or c)she just gets a kick out of being chased.


It takes nerves of steel to be strong with people like this and know when they are not good for you OR it will drive you mad and stress you out trying to figure out this kind of person.

Dude, I've dated women like this and it's not a pleasant experience and I know some men are also like this women. They need to be left alone so they realise they need to grown up.

When you don't know where you are with someone it messes with your head.
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