This article really was eye opening. I will admit that I have had some of these tendencies in the past and often wonder if I still might. However, I've made a conscious effort to remind myself of these behaviors. The problem is that I'm such a loving, caring, and affectionate person that some of the things I consider as a normal way of showing affection to someone may actually be perceived as smothering.


Case in point, I was recently seeing someone who I let him do the calling and texting initiations , texting to say he missed me, would call me sweet cutsie names, brough me flowers, said I was perfect for him, wanted to have white-hispanicbabies...all of which I found flattering and it was welcomed and reciprocated. Well,I remember asking if the pace was right or if he felt smothered, he said I was fine we'd go at the pace I wanted. From one day to the next, he said he felt we rushed it and was unable to commit to anything. I was heartbroken. However the odd this is that I was left feeling like I was the culprit of his decision to pull away and the awful feeling that I had smothered him. I've mentioned this in other posts but havent rcvd much feedback. I'm confused, was it me being clingy? I do remember asking to see him often but also made it clear that I wasn't implying we should spend every free moment together. He asked for time because he didn't want to loose me. He said this didn't mean we wouldn't talk or see eachother anymore..it's been about a week and a half and have not heard a word from him...I was guilty of sending a simple text saying "thinking of you" and i then asked if he had found someone else to just tell me, I can handle anything but dishonesty. He said "I haven't found anyone else, I was planning on talking to you again. I told you I needed time, which you aren't giving me." WTF?!


Can any men fill me in on something I'm missing here? If anything, his behavior could have been seen as clingy right? I'm very hurt and am starting to get angrier by the day bc I feel "played" and it was with the worst tool, seemingly fake emotions. My girlfriends says that this guy overdosed himself with me, that he actually paced the relationship with all of his actions, and when he realized the severity in which it was heading...he freaked out. Then tried to put it on me.