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LoveisPain is offline LoveisPain Post #1  April 18,2011, 12:46pm
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I am a 20-something year old female planning a 4th date with a 30-something year old man. Every other date has been planned by him. And they have all been wonderful.

Does anyone have date ideas for a girl in the city who wants to plan a fun date?
 
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Give us an idea of what you've both done, so far, to help us better suggest something new and fun. Also include some things about you two - hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc.
 
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What kind of interests did he talk about on the first three dates? Maybe plan the date around one of those interests. Example: If he said he loved hockey, see if you can invite him out to a local hockey game. Do something that he is interested in. That way, he realizes that you are not just wanting to spend time with him, but that you are also paying attention to his needs and interests.
 
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You need to give more info about your past 3 dates and what you and him like to do and what times and on what day are you targeting?
 
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bowling is always fun when mixed with booze...

invite him over and cook him dinner and watch a movie together

any good local bars with good live music?
 
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Date 1 was a picnic in the park
Date 2 was dinner out
Date 3 he made dinner and we watched a movie

We both have dogs and like pets. We are both active but also like to stay in. I can't cook lol. I am picky about food--he will eat almost anything. We have enjoyed drinking wine. I am really into art but I am not sure how into it he is. I love movies and music. How dorky would it be to take a guy to paint? Pottery or otherwise?
 
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jimmyh452 wrote :
bowling is always fun when mixed with booze...
Watching paint dry is fun when mixed with booze..
 
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LoveisPain wrote :
Date 1 was a picnic in the park
Date 2 was dinner out
Date 3 he made dinner and we watched a movie

We both have dogs and like pets. We are both active but also like to stay in. I can't cook lol. I am picky about food--he will eat almost anything. We have enjoyed drinking wine. I am really into art but I am not sure how into it he is. I love movies and music. How dorky would it be to take a guy to paint? Pottery or otherwise?
is there a Melting Pot or a Dave & Busters in your area?


 
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We have both of those. I have never been to the melting pot. Dave and Busters is a fun date though.
 
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That depends on what you paint. I love Impressionism and Surrealism so that actually sounds like fun - although quite lengthy.

Why not propose going to a museum? Share some of your interests with him while there and see how he reacts as the night goes on. If you feel the mood is dying, look at him and, with a big smile, tell him, ''Okay! I've tortured you enough. Where do you want to go?!'' This lets him know that you're more concerned with making a mutually enjoyable date than pushing your preferences on him and it also puts the ball in his court so he won't feel awkward when he tells you what he wants to do. Sometimes is about give and take so you have to accept the reality that you guys simply might not mesh on every level. But that's okay. Life, and love, are all about variety and the thrill of discovery.

And that's exactly what this is - a journey of discovery. Don't be afraid to express your wants and desires. Just remember to be equally receptive to his.
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