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I am TOTALLY loving this new blog by our editor, Jeannie. Seriously, if everyone followed these rules, I think everyone's dating experience would be SO much better.

While we of course welcome and encourage your comments on the blog post itself, I thought this topic was worthy enough of a close look at each of these four new rules on their own.

So, without further ado:

In dating, are you always doing your best? Are you being and acting honorably toward those you date?

To what extent do you feel as if those you date are doing their best by you?
 
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I actually think this rule should be #1 and if it was you could just throw out all the others.

When most people go on a date they are so tuned into seeing whether or not their date meets “their” criteria that they aren’t concerned with the impression they are making on the other person. They are so busy focusing on questions like is this person cute enough, funny enough, and sexy enough and do we have chemistry to even be aware that they are making an unfavorable impression on the other person. I’m very guilty of this myself, LOL!

I fully agree with the article in that the focus on the date should be more about the impression you are making on the other person. The more effort you put into being likable the more likely it is that there WILL actually be CHEMISTRY!

That’s all I got on that! Thanks for starting this discussion!
 
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This is one area in which I will speak highly of everyone I have ever been on a date with ...

Every woman I've ever been on one single date with really seemed well-prepared and put-together, and seemed to be taking it seriously (while on the date .... not necessarily afterwards, in terms of responding to phone calls or e-mails ...

Not counting the two stand-ups I've experienced, everyone who has shown up has been well-dressed, paid attention, not done anything terribly weird or rude or anti-social during the date, asked decent questions, and mostly responded to my questions.

Not to get too negative again, but it's one reason why I don't believe there's basically any correlation between "good first date" and likelihood of a second date.
 
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Hey, enough with the rules!
 
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I won't even go on a first date unless I can see a future.

So once I've made that initial decision...I am all-in...for as far as I can take it. I give it my very best shot; I play for "keeps".

I've never had anybody take advantage of me, or play lightly with my feelings. I can only think they appreciate the direct forthrightness I bring to the table.

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D_Lion wrote :
Hey, enough with the rules!
They're more like guidelines, really....
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
In dating, are you always doing your best? Are you being and acting honorably toward those you date?

To what extent do you feel as if those you date are doing their best by you?
Yes and Yes.

No. See my post in the Dating #1 thread for explanation.
 
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wrote :
In dating, are you always doing your best?


Absolutely!

wrote :
Are you being and acting honorably toward those you date?


Without a shadow of a doubt!

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To what extent do you feel as if those you date are doing their best by you?


No.

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
To what extent do you feel as if those you date are doing their best by you?
Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
No.
BabyYoda wrote :
No.
Begs the question...

If a person feels they are giving their best...and the other one is not...why go out with them?

Why not look elsewhere?

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