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Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #1  April 6,2011, 4:44pm
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So I heard this poll on the radio today that asked who gets to work the car stereo (or whatever it is called today) you or your date? Do you put the radio on your favorite station, play your CD or plug in your MP3 player. Or do you let them choose the station, CD, etc.?

They joked about how this might affect the success of your date. At first I thought, “This is the most ridicules thing I’ve ever heard.” Later I got to thinking they might really be on to something. LOL!

Has this ever happened to you? You are on your third date and invite them over to your house. You’ve made them your favorite meal, rented your favorite movie, and are playing your favorite song on the music player thingy? Now you are starting to think that maybe you really don’t “click” because they just don't seem to be into Kelly Clarkson like you are? LOL! What’s up with that! Everybody loves Kelly Clarkson!

We all want the person we find attractive to love the same things that we love, but at the same time no one wants to date a clone of themselves. Seems to me that relationships should be about exploring each others differences as much as they are about enjoying the things you have in common. What happens if they like Red Hot Chili Peppers and you don’t? Try some Rolaids. LOL! (Only music lovers will get that joke.)

Seriously, I think the guy on the radio was right and things would go a lot differently if you played their favorite song, made their favorite meal and rented their favorite movie! When you invite them into your world you want to make them feel welcome and as comfortable as possible. Surrounding them with familiar things will make your world seem more inviting. I’m not saying you should give up your identity, but you will gain more points by showing them a willingness to learn about what comprises their identity. Making a genuine effort to appreciate the things that they love and enjoy will help them to reciprocate appreciation of the things you love and enjoy. Maybe you will both grow into a new favorite song together that doesn’t require anti acids or ear plugs, LOL!

That’s all I got on that. Thoughts? Comments?
 
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Kelly Clarkson is an awesome talent, but let's face it - her music sucks. I put on music I think she'd like, and change it up a couple of times and see her reaction, what she likes and doesn't.
 
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But on thes second or third date I would you really know what their favorites are....remember they could be answering and saying tings you want to hear instead of the truth. IF you said your favorite was Kelly CLarkson..they ,ay say theyre favorite was Kelly too just to be nice...but in a few months you realize their favorite is actually likes Chris Daughtry.
 
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I play a mix of his and mine. my boyfriend made me a "mix tape" CD equivalent when we'd been dating a week and a half, and I downloaded it all to my ipod, and added it to the mix of music I enjoy. and I edited my favorite romantic evening mix down to take out some of the stuff he hated - country music - and added some of his and other things I thought he'd enjoy. and sometimes I play just the stuff he gave me. I love it, so I don't mind a bit.
 
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scully98 wrote :
I play a mix of his and mine. my boyfriend made me a "mix tape" CD equivalent when we'd been dating a week and a half, and I downloaded it all to my ipod, and added it to the mix of music I enjoy. and I edited my favorite romantic evening mix down to take out some of the stuff he hated - country music - and added some of his and other things I thought he'd enjoy. and sometimes I play just the stuff he gave me. I love it, so I don't mind a bit.
Mix tape - - now that's a good idea!
 
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i personally dont care if we have the same musical tastes. its fun to have some shared favorites, but i reserve the right to make fun of his musical tastes, and he does mine (all teasingly and in good fun, of course!)
 
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I won't allow commercial broadcast material (with annoying / intrusive interruptions) in my presence. People who use television as background noise in their home is something I look at as a deal-breaker.

Other than that, I favor variety in music. So, I usually took some CDs of mine and of my partner when going on a drive. (I am inept with music, anyway; if not for partners, I'd never get anything new.)

To the rest of your post, I don't believe in "mine" or "their:" I prefer to settle on things we both enjoy, for when we are together.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I won't allow commercial broadcast material (with annoying / intrusive interruptions) in my presence..
You do realize this isn't possible in a literal sense without living in a cave? I don't mean to hijack the thread, but this strikes me as extremely peculiar.
 
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It's a bit awkward in some instances, yes.

There are stores I won't return to, admittedly. But the incessant pollution of idiots shouting is to be avoided by civilized people as a sign of having attained civility.
 
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