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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #31  April 7,2011, 9:06am
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jimmyh452 wrote :
"women of all people"

What's so special about women, specifically?

It's a woman's own fault if she's putting herself at risk to not be rude. Women should never "spare a man's" feelings to avoid being rude. She could, however, politely, decline a man's advances. My point is that she should actively reject him rather than ignore him.
women tend to be victims of men (generally) because they are afraid of being rude to them. "polite" is often what gets them into trouble, and again i am not referring to the op in this case, as i had stated.

and the entitlement is where again? i didnt see a response to that.
 
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I will add a counter point for the guy. Some nice guys (probabaly women too but I dont date women) will text or text "can we talk" or wait between calls because you either are busy/represent as busy and they are trying to be non-imposing. This is, to my mind, probably NOT going to "get the girl" but I have certainly seen it.
 
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Coming late to the table... you owe this man nothing. That is not to say that doing nothing is your best course. I think, whenever possible, we should treat people kindly. That doesn't mean that you compromise yourself, but rather that you treat him the way you would like to be treated if a guy wasn't interested in continuing things with you. OK, 2 dates does not a relationship make, but this guy obviously is looking for more, you are not, & everyone will benefit from some closure here. Just be kind.
 
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Nanette wrote :
women tend to be victims of men (generally) because they are afraid of being rude to them. "polite" is often what gets them into trouble, and again i am not referring to the op in this case, as i had stated.

and the entitlement is where again? i didnt see a response to that.
Patently absurd. You present it as if women have only two options:
1) be rude
2) be a victim

And your entitlement is the incessant posts encouraging women to act with no regard for what a guy may think or feel, as if there is no moral or societal obligation to treat other people, even naive and annoying people, with respect and decency.
 
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pisto wrote :
Patently absurd. You present it as if women have only two options:
1) be rude
2) be a victim

And your entitlement is the incessant posts encouraging women to act with no regard for what a guy may think or feel, as if there is no moral or societal obligation to treat other people, even naive and annoying people, with respect and decency.
no actually i didnt present it that way. i explicitly stated that women, because they are taught not to be "rude" often become victims of violence perpetrated by men. i have no problem being "rude" to someone if it would protect me in some way from someone that is trying to harm me. i stated this as a side note regarding women being told not to be "rude" all of the time. get it now?

i dont encourage them to act with no regard to what men think and feel, i encourage them to not act in ways that are detrimental to them. theres a huge difference.

wanting a man that is willing to pursue a woman (for example since you didnt give a specific example, naturally) is not "entitlement" because i wouldnt expect a man that isnt interested in me to do it, and the ones that are interested are always happy to. really these are simple concepts. i dont get why people have such a difficult time understanding.
 
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I don't disagree with any point you have written here. However, you did encourage OP to completely ignore this dude, and this IS rude, and I fail to see how that protects her from anything.
 
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