Nate879 is offline Nate879 Post #1  April 4,2011, 11:32pm
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Hi again,

So I just had my first date ever a few days ago and it went great. A mutual friend gave us each others phone numbers and we started texting back and forth. We had several great text conversations in the days leading up to the date, and she was actually the one who suggested we meet in person. In one of her texts she mentioned that she thinks a restaurant would be the best place for a date and I chose the location. As I said, it was a great date. We both laughed a lot, and had great conversation. Neither of us did anything too embarassing. The date lasted for about an hour and a half. There was no kiss or anything at the end, and she would not let me pay for her. I did, however, ask if I could take her out again, and she said yes but we din't set anything up at the time. When I got home, I texted her that I had a great time, and she responded that she did as well and asked if I wanted to get together again this week (I don't know if she forgot that I already asked her). Of course, I said yes. I also remembered that she had a presentation for one of her classes coming up, and I wished her luck before it and checked with her to see how it went afterwards.

I remembered that she had mentioned that she likes one of our schools sports teams, and invited her to one of their games on Thursday. She said yes and told me that I could pick her up this time. She mentioned a few things on the first date that are related to this next date that I can bring up (past experiences, etc). I will also hold every door for her, and do things like that.

Since this is my first time dating anyone, and I don't know anything about this sort of thing, I'd like your input. How well does this seem to be going? What advice do you have for me on the second date?

One last thing. She uses a lot of smiley faces when she texts me (there is one in practically every text). I don't know how relevant that is, but I thought it might be worth mentioning.

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deluxe is offline deluxe Post #2  April 5,2011, 12:45am
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It sounds like a great connection so far. She seems to really like you. Relax, take your time and enjoy getting to know her.
Wish you all the best!
 
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richey is offline richey Post #3  April 5,2011, 8:04am
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yer doing great. don't think about it.. just keep doing what you're doing and enjoy

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It sounds like you had a good time. For a second date, there are many options, look into local events she might enjoy going to, dinner, movie, art museum, concert, theatre, etc.

About the smiley faces in her emails, I use those too . A lot of women (and men) do. It adds expression to the email, nothing with particular meaning (at least to me). Good luck!
 
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I am thinking both of you are 18-21 college age....just have fun and dont take things too seriously. At your age it isnt as much dating as more of hanging out because you cant really afford to date.
 
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Dating gets easier the longer that you get to know somebody.The anxiety or the fear of the unknown fades away so does being unknown, because the mutual friendship is developing at it's own pace.

I think that you have to mentally frame things for yourself so you don't come off so naive or without a clue! Think of it as going out with a friend it does not matter boy or a girl, just a friend. It's the sharing of space and time together.

When you make a date you and your friend discuss what things that you enjoy doing and what you don't enjoy doing and she should be free to discuss her likes and dislike as well.

As the relationship grows it's OK to use the telephone to talk on, besides txting on it! It can be enjoyable talking to someone that you care about. You can't hear a giggle or a laugh with a txt msg.

The romance or romantic side is learning to develop a level of sensitivity to her thoughts and feelings and she to yours. I don't know what books to suggest that you read to learn about romance.

I would not worry about kissing or touching at this point it will come. When your/ she's ready, you could also ask her when your alone if she would feel uncomfortable, if you kissed her? If you don't kiss well ask her to teach you how she like to kiss.

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LovelyLinda04 wrote :
I would not worry about kissing or touching at this point it will come. When your/ she's ready, you could also ask her when your alone if she would feel uncomfortable, if you kissed her? If you don't kiss well ask her to teach you how she like to kiss.

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Unless you are 17 or have some reason to believe you are a bad kisser, do not do this. Women want confident men, and this does not scream confidence. In fact, this just screams 'run screaming!'.
 
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richey wrote :
yer doing great. don't think about it.. just keep doing what you're doing and enjoy

Richey
Read the above again. And then again. And then one more time.

Then follow that advice.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
Unless you are 17 or have some reason to believe you are a bad kisser, do not do this. Women want confident men, and this does not scream confidence. In fact, this just screams 'run screaming!'.
It entirely depends on the woman, but I'm inclined to agree with redhead here. Body language is enough to know if a woman wants to kiss you.
 
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Awesome.
 
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