I think he's afraid of commitment....


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curiousgirl123 is offline curiousgirl123 Post #21  April 4,2011, 5:17pm
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I probably have a different take on this.

You say you've seen him for 2 months, 2-3 times a week which is quite often and text a lot daily, AND you have also been intimate. I think by now he has an idea whether he sees future with you.
No compliments at all is odd. I understand he is the reserved type but to me he is holding back and it is likely related to commitment. Trust your gut. I think you are starting to fall for him and you don't know if he is willing/able to make the same emotional investment. Just ask him the questions you have on your mind! If you think you'd rock the boat that means he wasn't right for you on the first place and it's better to know now.

You mentioned he met your kids by accident. Please keep the children away until he's proven to be someone who will be there on the long run. Children attach very easily and it would be hurtful for them if they did and he was later out of the picture.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The OP said they are not exclusive, just that neither is dating anyone else.

Exclusivity is a defined mutual action. Not dating anyone else means just that, and the reason may be that the person can't get anyone else to go on a date with them.

This is a fair point - but I've never been enamoured of "the talk" (that the "multi-daters" here like to use as their defense ...)

If I have to convince someone to be exclusive, that alone is proof they don't deserve it. I have alwasy assumed it.

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You might of course be right that the OP's partner can't find a better partner ... which is the topic I brought up in my first post.
 
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