Is two years older a big deal for men?


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Lindac7 is offline Lindac7 Post #31  April 4,2011, 5:10am
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One more thing - EVERY man I've dated in the past year or so has been younger than me (not necessarily by design, either, but I do prefer younger men). Of course I also consider men my age and older, too. I've had a few first meetings with men my age and older, but they haven't panned out.

Right now I'm dating 3 - their ages are 38, 45, and 49. They all know I'm 53, and obviously none of them care. Two of them lied about their age before we met in person. ;-) The two in their 40s both said they were younger. How's that for ironic?
 
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My experience in my 20's was that younger men were absolutely delighted at the prospect of dating an 'older' woman. I dated a couple of guys who were 1-3 years younger than I, and they never seemed put off by it.
 
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Quote The sad thing is, some men my age (and younger) look old enough to be my father - EWWWW![/quote]


Couldn't agree with you more.
 
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Lindac7 wrote :
I think once we reach our mid-30s and beyond, an age difference is inconsequential. We all age at different rates (physically), and we all mature (mentally and emotionally) at different rates. Those are the criteria that matter, not our chronological age.

To me, age is just a number. A person's outlook on life, attitude, and mental and emotional health are far more important for determining compatibility.

For a casual relationship, I agree.

Once commitments are considered, being in synch with your partner for things like retirement, elegilibity for benefits, is often important too - and that is still measured in years.
 
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If somebody gets caught up in age it usually means

1. They have some emotional/mental hang-up over something and can't get over it

2. Lack of maturity

3. Living in some fantasy world that they must go out and fulfill (6'4" blue eyed, blonde, 36-22-36, 23 yrs old, bla bla bla).

If anything, stop thinking about this and also getting caught up on why. It isn't important enough to spend this much time on, it isn't going to affect anything in your future that you may meet and date, and thirdly ~ why would people like us want to spend hours wondering why some dork like that has a hang up about 2 yrs of age? I got better things to do with my time thanks

FOR THE RECORD. I've ad an age gap of close to 20 yrs in my history so..... yeah... people are still people, personalities are still personalities.... and peopel are either compatible or they are not. age can play into that sometimes.... but certainly not because somebody sets down a rule "i don't date anybody farther than 2-5 yrs from my age".... that's definitely NEVER the factor where it comes into play.

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Lindac7 wrote :

The sad thing is, some men my age (and younger) look old enough to be my father - EWWWW!
And many women my age (and younger) look old enough to be my grandmother. Go figure!
 
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Lindac7 wrote :

Right now I'm dating 3 - their ages are 38, 45, and 49. They all know I'm 53, and obviously none of them care.
Lol, ok, which ones do you really like and which ones are you just with because you like seeing them walk around naked.
 
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Lol, ok, which ones do you really like and which ones are you just with because you like seeing them walk around naked.

Isn't that the same thing?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Isn't that the same thing?
For a lot of people it isn't. For most people who multidate they generally have one that they truly do like and the others are usually just filler (generally for sex purposes).
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