I like his brother... Advice?


Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #21  April 2,2011, 3:17am
Mr_Right's Avatar

says this is the best wedding picture!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jun 2008

USA

Posts: 4,402

See profile

LoveSong wrote :
Anyway, what should I do?
How should I approach this?
Should I be open/blunt about it (like say 'I like your brother...')- or is that rude/bad?
Should I just lay off the whole family and just say I'm not looking to date right now?
So it's like how do I tell him I don't want more with him?
The other part of this is...do you think I might have a shot with his brother?
If so, how should I go about it?
1. Tell the guy that he's a great guy, but you're just not feeling it/there's no chemistry, and best of luck.
2. See #1
3. It's rude.
4. Yeah - nothing good can come of this. But see #1 for specifics.
5. See #1
6. No.
7. See #6
 
  Reply With Quote
JuniperBerry is offline JuniperBerry Post #22  April 2,2011, 5:12am
JuniperBerry's Avatar

grew up believing

Quick Study

Joined: Mar 2011

My little town

Posts: 122

See profile

Step away from the Brother.

And if the friend isn't your fancy, leave him in peace.

You will find another fellow and situation that isn't fraught with potential damage. Your peace of mind will be worth it in the long run, as well.

There is no coulda, woulda, shoulda in something that isn't.
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #23  April 2,2011, 5:36am
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

ami1uwant wrote :
Don't even go down this path....the unwritten rules with guys is that you don't go after a best friends g/f or your siblings g/f.
Lindac7 wrote :
However, she's not a girlfriend, and hasn't been, to either of them . . . yet. ;-)

The first brother is only in pursuit, but hasn't caught anything.
But her school friend has had a crush on her for a long time. It does not matter if he has "caught" her or not, or even if he has made any move toward hooking her. If she rejects him for someone else that may cause him some pain. However, if she rejects him for his brother that is going to cause a rift between him and his brother.
 
  Reply With Quote
LoveSong is offline LoveSong Post #24  April 2,2011, 8:53am
LoveSong's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 293

See profile

Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
But her school friend has had a crush on her for a long time.
That's the part that concerns me. That's why I included it...
It's a delicate situation. He doesn't come off to me as super genuine, so I don't feel that much sympathy, but still...it's tricky...
 
  Reply With Quote
Sassafras54 is offline Sassafras54 — Advice Official Moderator Post #25  April 2,2011, 11:45am
Sassafras54's Avatar

Your Community Coordinator

Moderator

Joined: Oct 2009

San Pedro, CA

Posts: 9,080

See profile

Tell your friend you're not feelin' it ... you know he likes you and is interested, so to be kind to him, you need to let him know there's no future between you.

As for brother ... Let 6 months go by then friend-him if you still want to. I just can't see any decent man being willing to start dating a woman who just dumped his brother. If you approach brother now, and he responds ... you'll find yourself stuck with a guy who is Not Nice. Or is only going out with you to stab his brother. Or some weird thing you don't want to get involved with.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« First time advice seeker | Dating | what if women had more ...? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Welcome and Tips for eHarmony Advice Newbies! eHA_Admin_Lori Talk to your Community Team 10 February 9,2012 12:07pm
Bad Advice WeDesignOurLives Intelligent Conversation 28 February 14,2010 5:37am
Gender split on eHarmony Advice eHA_Admin_Lori Talk to your Community Team 18 February 1,2010 11:14am
Famliy issues need advice Levigirl Chit Chat 2 August 16,2009 8:07am
Are you NEW to eHarmony Advice? Welcome! PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING! eH_Advice_Admin_Lori Dating 0 April 16,2009 10:39am

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I did answer and then also updated with news that I was premature - there is no relationship after all.” –  picklesNcream

Join the “Blast off...!” discussion

“For dating. I'm basically in a (lifelong) rut that I would like to get out of. Sadly, my good friends are also in the same place as I am - if not worse. The topic of women is non existent among ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “So I've been thinking about getting a coach.” discussion

“I need some advice. I'm 18, never kissed/dated a girl nor obviously had a girlfriend. I just finished my first year at a top 30 university (full ride scholarship) with a 4.0 GPA. Starting my ... ” –  jrw93

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“The point is no me seeing their photos, I can see their photos; it is them seeing my photos. This means nothing can be gauged by any interest they show to you. On FCW I've noticed the non-paying ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“TD, Have you PM'd eH_Advice_Host_Eve to ask her for help? She is good at helping people tweak their settings so they are more likely to get the results they want. Please consider contacting her if ... ” –  tink333

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Did you know OT stands for on topic and off topic?” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Off -Topic” discussion

“My inner child says I am. Anastasia is intriguing. (Her name too). I like the dress she's wearing in the ad. I wonder how eHarmony picks the couples for their print and TV ads.” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Where is Becky?!?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 4:45am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0