pisto is offline pisto Post #1  March 31,2011, 7:50pm
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OK, maybe half of ya'll were right. I posted a thread about a week ago, a girl said she wanted to go out when I asked her, but didn't provide a number or call when I gave mine. It got kinda odd for me when she suggested a place and time through email that didn't work for me, but gave her number. I called to tell her, left a voice mail, but she never called back. Then, the morning of the day she suggested, she sends an eHarmony mail asking if I was going to make it.

Well it turns out, like some of you said, she just wasn't comfortable talking on the phone with someone she hadn't met. We ended up rescheduling via email and met last night. Also turns out she's not just ethnically Chinese, but nationally too, which I find somewhat ironic considering the business I'm in. I thought things were going well, so I suggested moving from coffee to dinner, but she declined, saying she was trying to lose weight (which is only believable because I know some women can be self conscious when they are at a perfectly healthy weight). I told her I'd call her tomorrow (tonight) and she said OK.

Not sure about the mixed messages, I figured she was not interested and was trying to be polite. But, never one to give up, I asked some friends what a good non-dinner date would be. The consensus came to the Seattle Art Museum. So I called, and to my surprise, she answered! I suggested the art museum, and she asked what the exhibits were (which took me totally off guard, it seemed somewhat irrelevant to me) and when I told her she said no (which makes me happy about completely upfront she was). Having no plan B, I suggested a sea food restaurant I know downtown, and she agreed! Bingo!

I've been on dates with five different ladies since getting back from sea late in February, and this one I'm most excited about seeing again. Now if only I didn't have so say "what?" after every other thing she said...
 
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You know she could be a spy using you to get secrets....
 
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pisto is offline pisto Post #3  March 31,2011, 7:57pm
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She's going to be so disappointed when I give up Navy life to coach rowing then.
 
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Great outcome, Pisto!

I wonder if she's into the arts, since she asked about the exhibits at the museum. That may be a good topic to bring up at your next date. Interesting about not doing dinner because she's being careful about her weight. Scope out what she orders at the seafood restaurant to see if she's ordering the deepfried calamari or the grilled fish.

You like this girl -- what excites you about her?
 
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Don't ask me to think. I don't think until after the second date. It's a rule.
 
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Pisto don't get too excited about this girl. It honestly isn't a very good sign that she keeps on questioning and rejecting your ideas and saying no to you (especially this early on).

And in the future don't assume that just because this girl (who doesn't speak great english) didn't want to talk on the phone that American girls won't.
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I get excited about every girl. And I have no intention of changing. Typically after the second date I come down and I start thinking about how I really feel about her. It's usually "She nice, but I can't see myself with her." I figure when I meet the right lady, she'll keep me excited, and it won't be so internal on my part.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
You know she could be a spy using you to get secrets....
A Chinese National- definitely a possibility. It wouldn't be the first time the Chinese Government would try to use female spies to get military secrets from officers.

Just speculation but you may to report being with a Chinese woman, if the relationship gets serious. I would tread carefully for the security reasons alone.
 
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pisto wrote :
I get excited about every girl. And I have no intention of changing. Typically after the second date I come down and I start thinking about how I really feel about her. It's usually "She nice, but I can't see myself with her." I figure when I meet the right lady, she'll keep me excited, and it won't be so internal on my part.
Just remember when things start off negatively they tend to only get worse.
 
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sony12 wrote :
Pisto don't get too excited about this girl. It honestly isn't a very good sign that she keeps on questioning and rejecting your ideas and saying no to you (especially this early on).
I agree... As a woman, I know that my gender generally wouldn't be as picky as to reject a date to a museum based on the exhibits. Even if they weren't really our cup of tea, it would be more about getting to know the person than it would be about analyzing artwork.
 
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