pisto is offline pisto Post #31  April 1,2011, 11:11am
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I don't see some of ya'll are making anything out of any of this. Sure, it's not the norm, but... she's... not... an... American... not even Western.
 
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Pisto, you know her better than any of us do, so go with your gut, enjoy the date and figure things out from there. Glad you took the chance and met her!
 
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Good news, Pisto! Great what a little tenacity will garner, too.

Sounds like you are heading into this with a superb attitude and just think of all the things you'll learn from each other.....what fun!

I hope if you run up against the little cultural speed bumps your desire to understand will be matched with her desire to share.

Have an awesome 2nd date!

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When you like someone you go out of your way for them. The ones who treat the people they like bad are the people you don't want to be around. Because they just treat people bad normally and that is just who they are.
 
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I think there are some cultural differences, that's all. I don't think she is being rude, she might be a bit shy and may be unsure how to respond. Most cultures, unlike the North American, are more direct in expressing what they don't like so she would be inclined to tell you if she doesn't like a certain activity. I think you are being very nice for giving her the benefit of the doubt.

About her declining dinner on a 1st date, here's a possible (may be uncommon) reason. I myself feel uncomfortable eating in front of someone I don't know well and I might be romantically interested in. This is very unusual in my case as I am an extrovert. This is something that I haven't really told many.

If you want to score some points, read a bit on her culture and learn a few words of her native language.
Good luck on your 2nd date!
 
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I wish I understood this whole thread.
 
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You probably need a link to the thread that this thread is a follow up to. Here ya go! http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...-offended.html (Should I be offended?)
 
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I think this thread has more than run its course.
 
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You guys are making me homesick for Seattle, Vancouver, and Victoria!!!

(I used to work about a block and a half from the Seattle Art Museum!)
 
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P.S. Pisto, I hope your second date goes well!
 
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