keepitreal4love is offline keepitreal4love Post #1  March 31,2011, 2:46pm
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A girl I know and like in real life is single now so I sent her a little email to say hi and ask her how she is doing. She writes me back and refers to me as "buddy". That means friend zone 99 percent of the time right? (uuggghhhh, not again)
 
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keepitreal4love wrote :
A girl I know and like in real life is single now so I sent her a little email to say hi and ask her how she is doing. She writes me back and refers to me as "buddy". That means friend zone 99 percent of the time right? (uuggghhhh, not again)
Nope. 100% of the time. AND she wants to make sure that you know it!
 
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Most definitely.
 
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I don't know what it means when a girl says it but I would not like hearing it. Actually I don't much like being called "buddy" by anyone, male or female.
 
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Nope. 100% of the time. AND she wants to make sure that you know it!
I agree. Sounds like an extremely nice way to very frankly say your are a friend, and ONLY a friend.

Sorry.
 
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That is one of the most blatent ways to put someone in the friendzone that I have heard in a long time. Whoa.
 
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I will be the optimistic on this one and say 75% chance you are in the friend zone, based on no back story, but I bet there are brighter pastures than this
 
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I would say it depends on the context. But I'm a hopeless optimist so there you go.
 
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Definitely friend - she may have suspected you like her and therefore knew the timing of your email was more than coincidental. She values your friendship, or she wouldn't have bothered answering, but it's 110% nothing more than that.
 
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O, for Petes sake.
We dont even know what you put in that little e-mail.
You may have come off as being her bud. She might have even found it thoughtful of you for thinking of her now that she is recently single.

Notice the emphasis on recent?

She may not even be thinking about dating right now.

I suggest not trying to mind read and just say. Would you like to go out on a date? Mind you, do not say hang out or get together. That can be thought of as casual.
 
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