butterflykiss is offline butterflykiss Post #1  March 30,2011, 4:52pm
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I have been paying for EH almost a year and have not gotten one guy I'm starting to get self conscious
What is it ??????
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  March 30,2011, 5:00pm
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Do you mean no matches, no communication, or no meetings?
 
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butterflykiss wrote :
I have been paying for EH almost a year and have not gotten one guy I'm starting to get self conscious
What is it ??????
What do you mean that you not gotten one guy

Do you mean that you have not gotten any matches? Or that you have not gotten any communication? Or that you have guys communicating with you but they poof or you close them out? Or that you get dates but nothing develops from there?
 
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butterflykiss wrote :
I have been paying for EH almost a year and have not gotten one guy. I'm starting to get self conscious
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Did you turn on the "Get Guys" option in "Account Settings"?

That's really important. I missed it myself for a long time.
 
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richey is offline richey Post #5  March 31,2011, 10:19am
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WonderingWoman wrote :
Did you turn on the "Get Guys" option in "Account Settings"?

That's really important. I missed it myself for a long time.
lol... priceless.
can you direct me to the "get women" button too?
 
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butterflykiss wrote :
I have been paying for EH almost a year and have not gotten one guy I'm starting to get self conscious
What is it ??????
Hi Butterflykiss,

I don't know if you mean no communication or that you haven't found that special someone.

I want to encourage you - it's quite normal for it to take some time to find the right person. I know many people who were on eHarmony for over a year and they did ultimately find the right person. Since we specialize in "long term", we believe in the value of taking time to find "the One".

There may be things you can do to improve your experience. You might want to consider creating new topics with specific questions in our Using eHarmony forum:

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We also invite you to post your eHarmony profile for other members to review it and give you feedback. Many have found this helpful to improving their experience. Here are the instructions:

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Well, I have been on eH four months and although I have had many matches, both real and dead or phantom matches, I have not found one woman I really much wanted to date. Must be par for the course. I still find some women IRL, but none have proved out to be long term material for almost a year now.
 
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WonderingWoman wrote :
Did you turn on the "Get Guys" option in "Account Settings"?

That's really important. I missed it myself for a long time.
EHA really oughta have a "Sticky" about this in the Using EHarmony forum.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
I want to encourage you - it's quite normal for it to take some time to find the right person. I know many people who were on eHarmony for over a year and they did ultimately find the right person. Since we specialize in "long term", we believe in the value of taking time to find "the One".

~Kate
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I must be an exception. Was on eHarmony for much, much longer than a year and still never found anyone
 
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WonderingWoman wrote :
Did you turn on the "Get Guys" option in "Account Settings"?

That's really important. I missed it myself for a long time.
mitchell175 wrote :
EHA really oughta have a "Sticky" about this in the Using EHarmony forum.
Definitely, I have gone back and looked and looked and I can't find a button to turn on "Get Girls" anywhere. Of course maybe it is only you girls that have a special button to "turbo boost" finding "The One".
 
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