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AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #71  April 4,2011, 11:15pm
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boomer_gal, I think any e-mail that follows a more personal approach and is straight forward will work. If, they are attracted to/by your profile/pictures too.

The reason this e-mail worked on me is because I receive a ton of single word (I'm serious about this. One e-mail was "hello") or "let's hook up" e-mails that having someone e-mail me that said something that was specific to my profile was a break from the norm.

Basically if you have five standard elements, it should work in conjunction with your profile. First, using their (screen) name. This makes it less generic. Second, say something about any aspect of their profile that made them stand out to you. Third, saying something about yourself that relates to this same aspect or even something else, that is about you. Fourth, express interest. Fifth, ask for a date! Not a maybe, but a "I wants to meet you soon" kinda thing. Wishy washy doesn't play well with me.

Adding the option to ask more questions wasn't needed in this case. He had a very well filled out profile. But, it is nice to open the door. I try to all the time, but rarely get asked anything. They just want to meet and meet NOW!

Now, as to this specific kind of e-mail working on a man... I'm not sure. I've stopped initiating contact a while back. Besides no need to initiate, I find it best to leave the pursuing to the men. The few times I have initiated contact in the last couple of years, it never went anywhere.

So, maybe some of the men on here can give their opinion on that e-mail I received. Would they want to receive one like it? Would you respond? Does it seem to forward to come from a woman?
 
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sony12 wrote :
Actually it is. And the funniest thing about this thread is that the guy who is throwing out the lame pickup lines and unfunny jokes is having to have everyone's approval about it.
Sparkles is not asking for approval, as he had already sent both emails. He's asking for suggestions for improvement for future emails. If we all thought our current methods were working, we wouldn't be here posting questions like this.
 
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boomer_gal wrote :
Andie (& everyone),
Do you think something like this could work for a woman approaching a man, or is it too forward? I have been trying to initiate contact on another site & I am having very minimal success. Not sure if it is the email, the profile... or just me. I know for sure that I am no good at flirty little emails, but I'm not sure what other strategies can work well. Opinions, please.
Maybe it's a culture thing but in my country that email sounds pretty awful and cheesy. Sounds like something written by a (poor) pickup artist.

"Hello (my name), this is totally new to me so here goes. As you know I am definitely interested in you. I see you love sushi. That is great, as you know I do too. What were you hunting for on your recent trip? Okay, here goes, would you be interested in going on a date? Coffee? Dinner? I figured I had better just get right to the point. Before you answer that however, you probably have a few questions for me. I'd be honored. Hope to here from you soon.
(his name)."



This is my alternative.


"Hi xxxx, your profile interested me!... so I thought I'd break the ice and send you a quick email with a view to meeting up for a drink at some point if we hit it off by email!?

I see in your profile you've been hunting on a recent trip? Where did you go for that? and I also noticed you like Sushi which is good news because that's one of my favorite foods!

I look forward to hearing from you! (and meeting you!)

Boomer
x"

I would never put "dinner" in an email, it's too much being suggested too soon to put dinner in a first email. And put any statements of fact near the start of emails and questions near the end of emails. It's easier to follow, read and respond to emails where the questions come last.
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