Would you date some one you're comfortable with...but your family isn't?


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boomer_gal is online now boomer_gal Post #11  March 31,2011, 8:24pm
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Yes, I have & would continue to date people that my family doesn't approve of. When I was in college, my folks did not approve of my dating outside of my race. None of those relationships got serious, but not because of any family issues. I just wasn't ready to get serious at that point in time.

Flash forward 40 years & my family now consists of my adult children. They haven't met any of my dates yet, so there have been no situations like this to deal with. But I think if something along these lines came up, I would really listen to what my kids had to say because I trust their judgement. If it was casual dating, it wouldn't matter, but if it were heading towards something serious, it would prompt me to proceed with caution.
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate wrote :
Would you ever consider dating someone you felt really “at home” with, even if you knew they wouldn’t feel at home with your family (or your family wouldn’t feel at home with them)?
In a heart beat, without a second thought. My family is important to me and I will respect their opinions, even allow their opinions to shape mine, but I am my own man and would never let that come between me and the woman I love.

But, come to think of it, I can't imagine my parents pressuring me. I know my dad wouldn't be shy about letting me know he didn't like a girl, but he'd leave it at a sentence, probably a half-joke chiding me for not recognizing red flags.
 
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yes i would and have.

Botomline: I'm the one dating my SO, not my family. It is perfectly 100% fine if they don't see her as somebody they would not want to date, and if it's different from who I want to date.

Who I date is my decision, and my decision only.

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