Bykah08 is offline Bykah08 Post #1  March 30,2011, 3:15pm
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I have been talking to a nice guy for about a month, initially through the guided communication, then email and this past weekend, for the first time spoke on the phone. We are communicating long distance. We have a lot in common. I called him after he gave me his phone number in an email. Our first conversation lasted for about 2hrs and I never heard from him again after the first phone call. I'm thinking I should move on, if he is interested he will call. Or do you feel he is waiting for me to call him? Should I call him?
 
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It does no harm to call him. Its the 21st century and its perfectly ok for women to be the initiator. Call him, leave a message and leave it alone. If he doesnt call back, then you have your answer. Good luck!
 
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I make two or three unreturned communication before giving up on someone.

I would not bother me to receive a call (it's actually a good thing.)

I tend to establish a pattern for communication - such as by letting a new match know how / when I communicate.

If this has been awhile, the odds are the person probably lost interest, but it does no harm to make a call or send an e-mail.

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Even with distance, it is past time to plan a meeting (or at least work out what the constraints are on having a meeting.)
 
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Thanks for the advice. I'll give him a call and see what happens.
 
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How long ago was this call....did you give him your phone number ??? If you didnt he will not call you even if he has caller ID because he doesnt want to come off as stalking.

Call him again and see what happens,

Just remember---the Long distance could be an issue to him right now...depending on how far you two are...there is a big difference between a 2 hr drive and a 2,000 mile drive.
 
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Bykah08 wrote :
I have been talking to a nice guy for about a month, initially through the guided communication, then email and this past weekend, for the first time spoke on the phone. We are communicating long distance. We have a lot in common. I called him after he gave me his phone number in an email. Our first conversation lasted for about 2hrs and I never heard from him again after the first phone call. I'm thinking I should move on, if he is interested he will call. Or do you feel he is waiting for me to call him? Should I call him?
no dont call him. first of all you just spoke to him over the weekend. my thinking is that if he was that enthused he would have wanted to talk to you again before now.

if you want to be the one calling all the time, then call him. most guys usually go after what they want or are interested in. they dont generally wait for it to drop in their laps
 
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no dont call him. first of all you just spoke to him over the weekend. my thinking is that if he was that enthused he would have wanted to talk to you again before now.

if you want to be the one calling all the time, then call him. most guys usually go after what they want or are interested in. they dont generally wait for it to drop in their laps
Completely agree with Nanette on this one. I subscribe to the rule that girls don't call boys. First, if he is truly interested, he will call you and he will call you often. A man who wants you will not dilly dally and leave you wondering, especially in light of all the other men he must compete with - he will let his intentions be known. Second, if you call him, you will eliminate the opportunity to gauge his interest in you. You call him, you talk for a bit, and in the end you still won't know if he was interested enough to have called you before you called him, and you'll wonder if and when he'll call again.
 
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Disagree with the last two posts. My rule of thumb: if you wonder if you should call, then call. This time, setup a date
 
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USCPharmD wrote :
Completely agree with Nanette on this one. I subscribe to the rule that girls don't call boys. First, if he is truly interested, he will call you and he will call you often. A man who wants you will not dilly dally and leave you wondering, especially in light of all the other men he must compete with - he will let his intentions be known. Second, if you call him, you will eliminate the opportunity to gauge his interest in you. You call him, you talk for a bit, and in the end you still won't know if he was interested enough to have called you before you called him, and you'll wonder if and when he'll call again.
This is why you get a date setup.
 
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Bykah08 wrote :
I have been talking to a nice guy for about a month, initially through the guided communication, then email and this past weekend, for the first time spoke on the phone. We are communicating long distance. We have a lot in common. I called him after he gave me his phone number in an email. Our first conversation lasted for about 2hrs and I never heard from him again after the first phone call. I'm thinking I should move on, if he is interested he will call. Or do you feel he is waiting for me to call him? Should I call him?
based on everything I've read I do not think he is interested in forming a relationship with you

but .... I do know how some mens minds work and thus if you chase him and arrange to meet he may decide to see if he can have a short term but of fun out of this. but based on his lack of effort in driving things forward I can't see any interest from him regarding wanting a relationship.

I know when I was younger I did persue girls I chatted to on chat rooms, those that were long distance I would never think of in terms of relationship but would be interested if able to jump into bed with them or have a more casual relationship.
 
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