goingmyway66 is offline goingmyway66 Post #1  March 30,2011, 10:08am
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I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years because he could not commit never told me how he felt about me,never complimented me and it seems he only saw me when he wanted to be intimate.I met a guy online I am 44 he is 38 and he is very good looking, and looks younger than his age but so do I.I consider myself attractive but no beauty,even though I have been told by other's including this man that I am attractive.We met at a cafe chatted and got along well and then we went for a walk.I am attracted to him and he seems attracted to me.When our date ended he text me later to say that he enjoyed his time with me and said I can't wait to see you again,we text back and forth for a short while and said goodbye.He has 2 young children and I assume quite busy.I did'nt hear from him the following day so I decided to text him to say hi 2 day's after our date. His reply was I've been thinking about you I'm busy getting dinner for the kids and getting back into the routine with them,and he asked me how I was,after a long pause of no texting he said he just put the kids to bed and would be going to bed shortly himself have a great night.I don't know if its the age difference and thinking how could he possibly be interested in me and wondering if he was just being nice or if he is actually into me.Should I wait for him to contact me?Am I feeling insecure from my last relationship or is it that he is younger and quite good looking.I am just getting into the dating scene again and it is scary.
 
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Hi goingmyway66 and welcome to EHA!

He may be interested in you, but is busy as a single dad with 2 kids.

It could also be he's not single. Or he enjoyed the time he spent with you but isn't interested in more.

Whatever the case, I think your best move is to give it a couple days and wait to see if he contacts you. And if he does -- crank down your investment in him a couple notches -- you just met him, you don't know anyone who knows him (right?), you don't know his actual life and situation. Give it some time: go ahead and start getting to know who he actually is.

Also, how long ago did you break up with your ex? If it's not very long, you might want to give yourself a little time and space to completely get over it, so you won't have to be wondering "am I being affected by my ex or what's going on here?" -- you'll know you're not being affected by your ex.
 
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Only time will tell. Not enough information yet. Chilling out and waiting are not fun, but you really have no choice than to give it some time.

Being a single parent is very time consuming and emotionally draining. I would not say that you should decide he has no interest yet.
 
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ot enough info on this guy...he is he the only parent of these kids or is custody such that its flipped from one week to the next.

Given he has young kids...how are you with that? Are you a parent?

This seemed like a first date between you and him. He isnt going to suddenly start dating you every night after you first met. He may call you tonight or tomorrow regarding possibly some weekend date with you...or it could not be till next week because of how custody works.
 
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