Great leap forward: how to ask HIM out when you're terrified???


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ann_the_bold is offline ann_the_bold Post #1  March 29,2011, 7:57pm
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OK I posted a question a couple days back about a teacher I work with I fancied (I'm 8 years older). You guys had awesome insights and I thank you so much for it! This guy had asked me out to a school b-ball game 2 months ago but before I even stopped to think I blurted out, 'Sorry I can't we have a girls' nite out planned!' We totally did have a girls' nite out but still--STUPID STUPID me!!!

Well he hangs around more than ever in my room. It's to the point now where all my students have noticed and I get ridiculously giddy when I see him. But it's got to stop because it's torturing me.

I was trying to figure out a way to ask him out. I have my final eval tomorrow. This has been my hardest year ever as a teacher--cruel parents, budget cutbacks, salary reductions, etc. I'm almost positive I keep my job next year but am always a wreck after evals.

So, my guy has been really supportive of me even tho it's only his 1st year as a teacher and my 5th. He cheers me on when needed, validates my concerns and cheers me up when needed. (it's scary how easy it is to talk to him and how much it helps--never usually feel this way with boys!) I was thinking tomorrow--when evaluated at 8 am, emailing him and being like 'Hey, I just got my last eval. It was good/bad and I was going to celebrate/commiserate with a drink after work, wanna come with?'

I'm trying to keep it light and casual but hard to do because a) my evals always unnerve me and b) I'm terrified to ask him out b/c I'm so shy. But like I said I gotta ask him out--I already said no to him once, so it's my turn. I'd love to ask him F2F but can't because there are SO many kids/staff members running around for us to have any alone time.

Ideas? Does my idea sound natural enough without seeming weird? I really like this guy but again we gotta play it light and breezy. Thanks for the advice--you guys are awesome!!!
 
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if you are going to ask i would leave it at this:

"'Hey, I just got my last eval. It was good/bad and I was going to celebrate/commiserate with a drink after work....."

kinda trailing off to see if he picks up the hint

or you could try what i like to call the "lizzie trick" because she invented it...

when hes hanging around you to find a place to fit it in and just say "so, are you going to ask me out?"

i think thats perfect without sounding too aggressive and to kinda tell him directly that you are definitely interested in going out with him (since you said no once to him eeeks!)

good luck. have fun. report back!!
 
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