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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #1  March 29,2011, 4:01pm
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Saw this on the front page of USA Today and heard it several times this morning on ABC Radio News.

Excerpt from USA Today:

Romantic heartbreak hurts, and researchers now have a better understanding of why.
The same regions of the brain that are activated when people experience pain in their bodies also become active when people feel rejected by someone they love, new research shows.

The findings suggest that people whose feelings are crushed in a romantic breakup also may feel actual physical pain, says University of Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross, lead author of the study reported Monday in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

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I guess you'd be only human to feel pain over a breakup. I'm affected deeply and usually feel the pain in the form of an anxiety that, no matter how many deep, calming breaths I take, will not go away. The butterflies and soreness in my chest feels pretty much how I'd imagine a heart attack would feel and lasts for days into weeks. I wonder...is that typical of others? I thought it was just me.
 
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I saw this in USA Today too. Did you know that by the end of the article, they suggested taking Tylenol to help ease the pain of a heartbreak? No, really.

Personally, my pain tends to be a physical ache in in my chest (where the physical heart is), and a sense of emptiness there, a pit in my stomach, and generally always feeling lethargic and run down, like I'd just spent a long day doing hard physical labor, outside in the elements. Occasionally, there will be a headache involved, but not always, and not constantly. It's almost like having a constant hangover, but without the alcohol.

So, yes, the physical pain of heartbreak is real, as anyone who's ever had one could have told you. The fact that they had to do a study to find this out really is a "Duh" moment. And,no, a Tylenol won't help. Neither will "hair of the dog" by the way.
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PreachersSon wrote :
Neither will "hair of the dog" by the way.
Hair of my dog helps me plenty; right now he's laying across my chest with his chin over my left shoulder, snoozing, and I feel all warm and fuzzy!

I rarely "feel" emotional pain, but it manifests itself in another way; I develop chronic-fatigue-like symptoms, the most annoying being insomnia, and the strangest being that when I finally do fall asleep I'm completely aware of my surroundings for the duration. (It's like laying in bed awake all night with your eyes closed. I hear and remember all the motorcycles, buses, rap-mobiles, Pakistanis arguing, drunken Mexicans yelling, bottles breaking, car alarms, barking dogs, gunshots, sirens and so on.) Been like that for about five years now... SIGH.
 
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GRIEF, RINGING and SINGING

What is this thing called Grief?

This gut wrenching, heart stopping, breath catching,
unbearable proof of love called Grief?

This soul searching, dream longing, will breaking,
bottomless proof of life called Grief?

Some things defy understanding
whilst our energy demanding;
This place losing, hope draining, lone making,
depressing, regressing,
crying, sighing,
wonder of a thing called Grief.

I would pray away
what I feel today;
This time dragging, sleep robbing, mood changing,
unending, unbending,
moaning, groaning,
misery of a thing called Grief.

And yet...not yet...
It's proof that I love
and proof that I live...

So it is I welcome still
as I would a bitter pill;
This overwhelming, strength bringing, life saving,
drifting, shifting,
everlasting, steadfast
companion of a thing called Grief.

j8a
 
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j0hn8andy wrote :
GRIEF, RINGING and SINGING

What is this thing called Grief?

This gut wrenching, heart stopping, breath catching,
unbearable proof of love called Grief?

This soul searching, dream longing, will breaking,
bottomless proof of life called Grief?

Some things defy understanding
whilst our energy demanding;
This place losing, hope draining, lone making,
depressing, regressing,
crying, sighing,
wonder of a thing called Grief.

I would pray away
what I feel today;
This time dragging, sleep robbing, mood changing,
unending, unbending,
moaning, groaning,
misery of a thing called Grief.

And yet...not yet...
It's proof that I love
and proof that I live...

So it is I welcome still
as I would a bitter pill;
This overwhelming, strength bringing, life saving,
drifting, shifting,
everlasting, steadfast
companion of a thing called Grief.

j8a
That's very expressive j8a. Did you write it? Or did you find it somewhere else?
 
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PreachersSon wrote :
That's very expressive j8a. Did you write it?
Yes, it's mine, thanks. It's one of three I wrote for my late husband. I started writing poetry after he died, and consider the ability to do so...a Gift of Bereavement.

As you say...it affords me the opportunity to express what is largely...inexpressible.

The other two are happier...and better.

j8a
 
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suzyque wrote :
I guess you'd be only human to feel pain over a breakup. I'm affected deeply and usually feel the pain in the form of an anxiety that, no matter how many deep, calming breaths I take, will not go away. The butterflies and soreness in my chest feels pretty much how I'd imagine a heart attack would feel and lasts for days into weeks. I wonder...is that typical of others? I thought it was just me.
I don't experience this sort of feelings. Maybe that just says I have no heart.
 
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