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cjrc1027 is offline cjrc1027 Post #1  March 29,2011, 2:23pm
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I am in open communication with a new match. We have exchanged several emails in the last week or so. He informed me today they are cutting back at his job and may close his plant in a few weeks due to the issues in Japan. Help! I do not know what to say to this guy about this, we have never even spoke on the phone. Don't want to mess this up.
 
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ummm the first thing that comes to mind is ~ummmm... is this guy for real? Japan?

how long have you been talking and when ws the profile created (before or after the Japan earthquake?) If it was created AFTER the japan earthquake... i'd be rather wary.

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I don't get it... What do you need advice on exactly? What to say? Tell him "that's too bad. What do you think you're gonna do?" and see where it goes from there.

Take it veeeeeeeerrrryyyy slowly and veeerryyyy carefully, and be wary that anyone you have talked with online only, even phone conversations as well, is still a complete stranger as far as you're concerned.

Ask yourself this question: Why is a complete stranger, one who is supposed to be wanting to impress me at that, telling me he's going to be losing his job soon?

Methinks we have some kind of a scammer on our hands, but you can never be sure. So keep it casual and slow, and see what happens.
 
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Don't say anything about it. Richey's right you need to beware scammers, but I don't see how this changes things. Use common sense - obviously don't give him money or assistance.

If he's for real and wants to see you, he'll make it happen.
 
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richey wrote :
ummm the first thing that comes to mind is ~ummmm... is this guy for real? Japan?

how long have you been talking and when ws the profile created (before or after the Japan earthquake?) If it was created AFTER the japan earthquake... i'd be rather wary.

Richey
Actually this could be completely legitimate. The OP doesn't say what industry he is in. This is a global economy and what happens in Japan can impact a number of industries and companies, not just companies with obvious links to Japan. Experts in the WSJ say Auto production could go down 15%-30% (Could Shortages Cut Car Production By 30%? - Driver's Seat - WSJ) due to parts shortages caused the Japan Earthquake/tsunami. And that's not just Toyota and Japanese companies. GM and Ford have both shut down plants or reduced schedules due to part shortages coming from Japan. A lot of computer chips for automobiles came from that region of Japan. Yes, it sounds odd--- but he could be telling the complete truth.

I'm sure other industries are in similar position, esp if the company he works for operates leans and gets some parts from Japan.

If you're suspicious-find out what industry he works in (I don't have a problem giving this info out to matches because its not personal.) and google the industry to find out if they are having impacts from Japan. If it's auto or electronics or a related industry, it's true.


So, in others words, find out some details. He could be real. He could be playing for sympathy.
 
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So, in others words, find out some details. He could be real. He could be playing for sympathy.
Or, he could just be saying that suddenly he is not 100% focused on dating, so if he appears to be flaking, realize he's got a lot on his plate right now, and the timing may be better later.
 
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Sure this could be entirely legit or it could be BS..not enough info to know.

The issue I have ius why havent you and him talked on the phone yet.
 
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I am not sure what to think about this question. This seems pretty easy and obvious to me.

It seems you should say something like, "wow, that stinks."

I don't think I would immediately jump to all the wild things the people above said. Is that your concern?
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Or, he could just be saying that suddenly he is not 100% focused on dating, so if he appears to be flaking, realize he's got a lot on his plate right now, and the timing may be better later.
Why would someone use JAPAN as an excuse for this?

My gut says that it's true. The reason: if he's going to make something up involving money, you don't have to go to the problems Japan is having. Our economy is bad and so, you don't need to blame money problems on Japan. That seems to be what some of the posters are suggesting.
 
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richey wrote :
ummm the first thing that comes to mind is ~ummmm... is this guy for real? Japan?

how long have you been talking and when ws the profile created (before or after the Japan earthquake?) If it was created AFTER the japan earthquake... i'd be rather wary.

Richey
Why would Japan be surprising to you. Toyota has restricted US dealers from ordering parts. There has been talk about problems with supply of Japanese electronic components. Etc.
 
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