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Is there anyone currently going through a dating drought? Have anyone went for an extended period of time w/o dating? If so, how do you cope with the drought?


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I just got out of a drought I made myself. I think the longest I have gone without dating has been 2 months. I am back into dating again, but realize after a few more dates from online, I want to move to getting IRL dates. So maybe I will find myself in a drought that I didn't make myself.
 
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beccaf87 wrote :
I just got out of a drought I made myself. I think the longest I have gone without dating has been 2 months. I am back into dating again, but realize after a few more dates from online, I want to move to getting IRL dates. So maybe I will find myself in a drought that I didn't make myself.
Hmm..Interesting..

So, you have never ever been without a significant other longer than 2 months? Is this since you have started dating?

Do you think you could ever go a year without dating? Maybe a couple or a few years? What about 5 to 10 years?

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BabyYoda wrote :
Hmm..Interesting..

So, you have never ever been without a significant other longer than 2 months? Is this since you have started dating?

Do you think you could ever go a year without dating? Maybe a couple or a few years? What about 5 to 10 years?

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If you are counting relationships then my droughts have been much much longer. It has been over a year now that I have been in an actual relationship, I have dated a lot in the meantime though. It has been hard to not have a SO. I miss it very much. I try to keep myself occupied with things I like to do, such as volunteering and traveling.

I don't think I would survive 5-10 without a SO.

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I got my first boyfriend at 17, then I had 3 back to back LTR's until 23. I am 24 now
 
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Is there anyone currently going through a dating drought? Have anyone went for an extended period of time w/o dating? If so, how do you cope with the drought?
I frequently go through extensive dating droughts and although they're not unusual for me, they aren't any less depressing. My last relationship ended in the summer of 2009, so I've been single for almost two years now. During that time, I've been out on dates with about 8 other guys, but I only had one or two dates with most of them and I only ended up "hooking up" with one of them and that happened at the beginning of 2010, so it's been a while. The last "date" I had was in December, but it was boring and didn't lead to anything, so I don't know if that counts. I'm definitely ready for this dating drought to end!
 
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beccaf87 wrote :
If you are counting relationships then my droughts have been much much longer. It has been over a year now that I have been in an actual relationship, I have dated a lot in the meantime though. It has been hard to not have a SO. I miss it very much. I try to keep myself occupied with things I like to do, such as volunteering and traveling.

I don't think I would survive 5-10 without a SO.

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I got my first boyfriend at 17, then I had 3 back to back LTR's until 23. I am 24 now

Ok, how long have you gone without any type of interaction/communication with someone? Also, have you thought about those who have went years and years w/o a date or the same amount of time w/o sex? I do. I am sure it is no cake walk.

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SweetKisses wrote :
I frequently go through extensive dating droughts and although they're not unusual for me, they aren't any less depressing. My last relationship ended in the summer of 2009, so I've been single for almost two years now. During that time, I've been out on dates with about 8 other guys, but I only had one or two dates with most of them and I only ended up "hooking up" with one of them and that happened at the beginning of 2010, so it's been a while. The last "date" I had was in December, but it was boring and didn't lead to anything, so I don't know if that counts. I'm definitely ready for this dating drought to end!
Sorry you have to endure a dating/relationship drought. I am sure it is tough at times. If you don't mind me asking, how do you cope? Also, do you think the hiatus has made you stronger emotionally? Do you think it also has had a negative effect on you?

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BabyYoda wrote :
Ok, how long have you gone without any type of interaction/communication with someone? Also, have you thought about those who have went years and years w/o a date or the same amount of time w/o sex? I do. I am sure it is no cake walk.

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Then two months is the longest. I feel bad for those who have gone years without, although probably some of them it has been their choice (IE needing time after a divorce or something similar).

I do probably take for granted that I can afford to be picky. My droughts are by choice. Just dating wise, I could probably get a lot of them if I really wanted to. The difference is that, unlike a lot of girls my age, I want something more than just a fling. I want something real. That part is the hard thing to get. I don't want to sound full of myself, because I really am not but I do get a lot of male attention. Just not the "right" kind. A lot of guys in their late 20's that I meet are still just looking for casual.

I actually did some reflecting on my dating experiences over the last year about why none of them worked out. None of the guys wanted to get serious, but most still wanted to keep dating. I was the one to end most of them because casual is just not good enough and I am too young to settle for less. In fact, one of the guys I dated on and off still keeps contacting me. I told him unless he wants something serious I will not see him again (hard to do since I liked him the most out of everyone I dated this year).

I have a lot of good things going for me, although I do still miss having that special person in my life.
 
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BabyYoda wrote :
Sorry you have to endure a dating/relationship drought. I am sure it is tough at times. If you don't mind me asking, how do you cope? Also, do you think the hiatus has made you stronger emotionally? Do you think it also has had a negative effect on you?
I cope because I don't really have a choice! lol Yes, I could choose to date guys who I'm not really interested in, but that would be worse than not dating anyone at all for me. I got off to a very late start with dating anyways, so like I said, this is not exactly unusual for me. I've never been in love and I've never been in a great relationship, so I can't really miss what I've never had. It is something that I long for, but I accept that I just have to wait until it happens and also that it may never happen for me.
 
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Then two months is the longest. I feel bad for those who have gone years without, although probably some of them it has been their choice (IE needing time after a divorce or something similar).
I think that for a lot of people it is a choice. For a few, it may not be much of a choice(i.e., someone who is disfigured and/or handicapped).

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I do probably take for granted that I can afford to be picky. My droughts are by choice. Just dating wise, I could probably get a lot of them if I really wanted to. The difference is that, unlike a lot of girls my age, I want something more than just a fling. I want something real. That part is the hard thing to get. I don't want to sound full of myself, because I really am not but I do get a lot of male attention. Just not the "right" kind. A lot of guys in their late 20's that I meet are still just looking for casual.
I agree that you should not settle. I think many people do for fear of being alone/lonely. You are at the prime of your life, so do what you feel is best to get what you feel you deserve. I just hope that your expectations are reasonable and you are true to others.

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I actually did some reflecting on my dating experiences over the last year about why none of them worked out. None of the guys wanted to get serious, but most still wanted to keep dating. I was the one to end most of them because casual is just not good enough and I am too young to settle for less. In fact, one of the guys I dated on and off still keeps contacting me. I told him unless he wants something serious I will not see him again (hard to do since I liked him the most out of everyone I dated this year).

I have a lot of good things going for me, although I do still miss having that special person in my life.

In your opinion, why do you think the majority of guys want to only date casual(sex w/no commitment)? There has to be a reason why these guys are turned off by LTR's?

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