Are You Accidentally Sabotaging Your Love Life?

"At the root of all these behaviors lies one thing: fear of being single or alone. And the ironic thing is that this very fear pushes love away."

#3 is wrong, except for feeble minded people, in the relationship department. With proper perspectives, - for real, internally genuine, with levity - , not just wishful thinking, being friends with 'exes' is great, and the way it 'should be'. Because, if there was a truly 'whole attraction', with two 'whole people', who continually strive to 'be well', the relating would typically be well to continue for the long term. ill human nature is the problem for that situation to be a problem. Evolve, and truly be well.

Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like psychological mumbo jumbo?

#3 is wrong, except for feeble minded people, in the relationship department. With proper perspectives, - for real, internally genuine, with levity - , not just wishful thinking, being friends with 'exes' is great, and the way it 'should be'. Because, if there was a truly 'whole attraction', with two 'whole people', who continually strive to 'be well', the relating would typically be well to continue for the long term. ill human nature is the problem for that situation to be a problem. Evolve, and truly be well.

Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like psychological mumbo jumbo?

As with all things in life, there are levels. Each of these has some level of truth to them and some level of BS. Any person can be unavailable for any number of reasons. Each relationship is unique because it involves more than one. One person may behave one way in one relationship and totally different in another. However, a jerk is a jerk is a jerk.If one seeks perfection, one will only find flaws. But if your letting someone treat you with disrespect, they will never respect you. And that is an unhealthy relationship.Some times there are many reasons to communicate with the ex: children, property, businesses, mutual friends. But to move on to the next relationship, you must let the old one go. But to say that one is not available because they have contact with an ex is simply hogwash. Especially in an economy like today's, where there are times that in order to survive, some exes even still live together.The fear of being alone means in one way that we are not satisfied with who we are as a single person. But the need for human companionship will always be a part of most of us as humans. Most of us need love and acceptance from others. We need the warmth of touch and companionship and all at varying degrees. For example, I need a woman of whom I can cherish with love and affection while some only need to be able to pay bills together.As with the rest of these vague generalities there is some truth in the last one. There are those who understand that life is not always black and white. Sometimes for reasons beyond our control we must have "a relationship" with someone we don't want to have. Some relationships have been over for years but for one reason or another, they can not be completely abandoned. So each case must be handled as a one on one situation. Love is strange, relationships are even stranger. There is no one size fits all.

harmonicsexplorer wrote: " #3 is wrong, except for feeble minded people, in the relationship department. With proper perspectives, - for real, internally genuine, with levity - , not just wishful thinking, being friends with 'exes' is great, and the way it 'should be'. Because, if there was a truly 'whole attraction', with two 'whole people', who continually strive to 'be well', the relating would typically be well to continue for the long term. ill human nature is the problem for that situation to be a problem. Evolve, and truly be well."

Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like psychological mumbo jumbo?