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In a couple of weeks I am going to meet someone for the very first time, we have been chatting, emailing, and phone calls, now we are ready for the next step..face to face, I will be traveling to another state, when I show up at her door, what do I do, should I bring flowers ? besides a smile on my face, what would be a good opener, just hi ? or what ?
 
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first, you shouldn't meet at her house, it should be a neutral, public place. why are you meeting at her house? you guys are, essentially, strangers. that's not safe for either one of you.

second, when you meet, no need to bring anything other than yourself. I would be a little uncomfortable if someone brought flowers to a first meeting.

and then, just talk about what you've said to each other in your emails and phone calls. a natural conversation. ask her about her cat/kids/job/etc and the conversation will flow from there. if it doesn't, you guys might not be a good match.
 
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I have had numerous long-distance meetings (and relationships) over the years, and I have never had a first meeting at my home, or his. ALWAYS a public place. I have has matches show up with flowers and small gifts before, depending on how long and how intense our communication was before the meeting.
Just remember that flowers can be awkward if you are in a restaurant or other public place; there may not be anywhere to put them.
 
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In the interest of safety, usually a woman is hesitant to meet at her house, but since she is comfortable with that, I don't see that as a big problem. But don't bring flowers. Save that for a special occasion.

Do a little research on her area for things to do for a date, like places of interest, restaurants, or maybe an arts fair -- places that would promote conversation. Not a movie.

And stop somewhere just before getting to her house and use the rest room. Ya don't want to stink up her place on the first meet.
 
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I'm just going to assume that you meeting her at her house (and possibly staying there) is part of the plans you guys have made. So now you are asking ~ what should you bring and should oyu have anything when you arrive?

Honestly the answer is ~ it depends on you two, what kind of people you are, and how the communications have gone to that point. There is no "formula" that says:

out of state meetings = 3 red roses with baby's breath and a $5 box of See's candies for a 1st meet.

So don't look for cookie cutter rules and formulas ~ look at the relationship! What does your relationship and interaction to this point tell you makes sense to do when you show up?

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tweet37 wrote :
And stop somewhere just before getting to her house and use the rest room. Ya don't want to stink up her place on the first meet.
Werd.

Save your BMs for your own commode. Or, use a gas station's...lol..
 
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