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Ethan14p is offline Ethan14p Post #11  March 6,2011, 5:29pm
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There's a pizzeria by my house that I go to every now and then. A few years ago, I walked in and saw this really beautiful guy behind the counter. I was instantly attracted to him. We exchanged casual words and the next time I went in, I saw him again and he flirted with me and asked me my name. I told him my name and asked what was his name, told him "I'll see you around", took my food and left. As it turns out, I had just started dating someone else and I felt a little guilty about flirting with this guy, so I stopped going to the pizzeria for a while. Of course, I never really stopped thinking about this guy and months later when I went back, I found that he no longer worked there. I've regretted never getting to know him every day since, so the moral of the story is: PLEASE JUST GO AHEAD AND TALK TO THE GIRL!!

I like this post a lot. lol Since im already at the point where ive seen her enough and made some small talk should i just go for the name and number then? or maybe something simple as coffee? Like everyone else is saying, worst case she denies me.

I dont think she's just being nice. I work at a grocery store and i deal with customers all the time and talk to different people all the time. This girl doesnt seem like she's being nice because its her job. There's just these subtle signs that are too easy to tell theres a little more.
 
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Since im already at the point where ive seen her enough and made some small talk should i just go for the name and number then? or maybe something simple as coffee? Like everyone else is saying, worst case she denies me.

I dont think she's just being nice. I work at a grocery store and i deal with customers all the time and talk to different people all the time. This girl doesnt seem like she's being nice because its her job. There's just these subtle signs that are too easy to tell theres a little more.
 
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coffee or phone number, or dinner, or movie, or whatever, it does not really matter. If she is interested the answer will be yes to any of the above. If she is not, it will most likely be no.

Don't make her a "what/if", take the plunge.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
I was a bartender for 11 years. I currently work in a very public position in a professional theatre. I have flirted with hundreds and hundreds of men over the years. I have only dated one of them.
Don't take it seriously at all, or even take it personally. That's how it works - I flirt, I laugh, you look forward to seeing me on your next visit because you feel special and interesting and charming. I did my job,and did it well. That's all.
Wow. And I thought I was cynical. I've always followed the rule, "Don't ever believe it, or expect anything more, if you have a great conversation with, or get flirted with by, someone who is getting paid to talk to you" (Waitress, batrender (although, I don't frequent bars), airline stewardess, etc.). It saves a lot of time and trouble.
 
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Yeah.. 2 things to remember.

1. You will never know unless you ask.
2. You always have to be cautious when it comes to people in these fields ~ they get hit on al the time and it IS their job to be nice to everybody. It's what they get paid for.

But then again, what's the hurt in asking? It's just always best to have a practical and realistic perspective on it. I mean, waitresses and bartenders do date, and do have bf's too.

I remember this girl from Jamba Juice who I thought was cool. She always remembered my name and my drink order and had a big smile when i came in for my morning smoothie. But as Red said, I just assumed she was just being nice to me so I never really asked her about her or anything. One day, she told me, "i thought i'd let you know... i won't be here much longer... i've decided to take another job..." and like an idiot I didn't ask her if I could get her number to stay in touch. should have.

It made me think that maybe she did have some interest in me (because I definitely did not solicit the information). Probably not. But now I"ll never know right?

Richey
 
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