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NoQuestion is offline NoQuestion Post #1  February 25,2011, 8:24pm
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I really like this guy. We attend the same university and are in a class together this semester.
He's 25.
And I'm 18.
I've always been extremely mature, so the age difference doesn't seem shocking to me. But I know it's unconventional. We studied for a test together and ended up just talking for 90% of the time. He even said 10 minutes into our study session that he'd rather not study. Then he asked me questions about my family, my future, etc, etc. It was wonderful.
I REALLY enjoy his company, and would love to date him and get to know him better. He has since initated a couple of moderately flirty Facebook chats with me.

Does this sound promising, or am I overanalyzing? Is there any way a 25 year old man would be interested in an 18 year old? Despite the difference, I feel a connection with him - and I feel like it's mutual. What should my next move be, if anything?

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Yes he is interested, but for you the problem, he maybe to mature for you and may take advantage of you? All guys enjoy a young attractive vivacious girl for their ego. Be smart and don't be to generous with him.

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cp33 is offline cp33 Post #3  February 25,2011, 10:44pm

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I'm kind of curious how you and a 25 year old are taking the same class?

It sounds like he is interested in you. Don't let your insecurities over wether or not he likes you cloud your judgement. Be aware of the situation and that he probably knows what he's doing. Why were you studying together?
 
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cp33 wrote :
I'm kind of curious how you and a 25 year old are taking the same class?

It sounds like he is interested in you. Don't let your insecurities over whether or not he likes you cloud your judgment. Be aware of the situation and that he probably knows what he's doing. Why were you studying together?
I would ask the same question. But I also have a very plausible answer, he joined the military right out of high school.

Good advice here.
 
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He joined the fire department after high school, then went on to get another degree. He just transferred to my university and we're in a similar major.
 
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The fact that you're studying together doesn't even raise an eyebrow for me...college is filled with all ages --
It definitely sounds like he's interested, and if you are too, just be careful (like any young woman should be careful) that he's looking for the same thing you are, and not just sex. Keep us updated!
 
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I don't see any problem with this, given the litte information you have disclosed. Spend plenty of time getting to know him, and getting a sense of his future plans, and dreams and goals and see how well they match yours.

Everyone else on here has already given you the usual cautions, so I won't add to them, although at 18 and 25 it is still young, many people are still strting out and finding themselves, in these years, and things could change a LOT, later..
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I see no reason not to try - it's just dates. You'll never know if you don't try.

I'd expect the biggest issues to be lifestyle. The consequences of disparate income and you not being of legal drinking age could mean very different social / leisure interests.
 
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That's what I was thinking.
He does drink socially, whereas I'm not the least bit interested in alcohol, let alone the legal drinking age.
Plus he has essentially had years of adulthood and independence, while I'm just entering the adult phase of my life.
I know people whose parents are 7-10 years apart; I'm just not sure if the age difference means something different NOWadays. I'm sure that if he's even thought about dating me, those are thoughts that've crossed his mind too.

Obviously I am overanalyzing this.
 
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NoQuestion wrote :
Obviously I am overanalyzing this.
No, I don't think so. This is healthy contemplation of strategy, NOT paralyzing over-analysis of tactics. It already shows that you are ahead of many people your age.

Over-analysis is looking at what happened on a date and trying to analyze every little bit of information, when you don't know if it's relevant or not. Here, you're trying to figure out if the two of you might lead to a good future.

At some point, contemplation must bring forth right action to permit further growth. I think it'd be a good idea to go out on a few dates with him, but like the others said, be careful - be strong - don't let him talk you into things you don't want to do.
 
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