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Glider_Pilot is offline Glider_Pilot Post #11  July 9,2008, 8:46am
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Well, here's how many partners I've had:


At least one less than necessary to find the last one.
 
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This question for me is not one I will reveal, nor will I ever ask. I won't ask because I don't want to know. I won't tell because I don't think it's anyone else's business.


For me, sex is an act to be shared by the parties involved and no one else. It may be nice to tell your closest friends general stories or even full details about particulars; but, to go into the nitty gritty of every single person is a little tacky. Plus, I just don't want to know because I think that people judge each other if the number is "too high" depending upon their own moral conventions. Why begin a relationship frought with judgment?


What I tell my potential partners is my truth: I'm tested quite regularly and am very clean.


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Here is another topic that has already been beat to death here.....but yeah, I think the general consensus is that its rude to ask, most don't want to know, and its private unless its something you are proud of and want everyone to know.


The way its asked here on the forum its like a suggestion for everyone to just start typing out numbers. I really don't want to know....and would not consider dating someone that published that info like it was a badge or even something they were ashamed of. TMI....unless its totally anonymous. It would pretty much disqualify anyone I might have been considering of interest.


If it were an established relationship I might be curious, but would probably still rather not know. Hopefully trust would have been established enough that I have an idea what kind of person this is, how they have conducted thesmself in the past, and how they have learned from experiences to be the person they are now.
 
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cp30,164555 wrote :

Here is another topic that has already been beat to death here.....but yeah, I think the general consensus is that its rude to ask, most don't want to know, and its private unless its something you are proud of and want everyone to know.


The way its asked here on the forum its like a suggestion for everyone to just start typing out numbers. I really don't want to know....and would not consider dating someone that published that info like it was a badge or even something they were ashamed of. TMI....unless its totally anonymous. It would pretty much disqualify anyone I might have been considering of interest.


If it were an established relationship I might be curious, but would probably still rather not know. Hopefully trust would have been established enough that I have an idea what kind of person this is, how they have conducted thesmself in the past, and how they have learned from experiences to be the person they are now.
A topic already beat to death? Why,it was sent on the 19th of June and it is just getting attention now. I think that we've moved on to the question of STDs and how to approach them. What do you do about this subject? And Oh my, Glider Man, I liked your responce.
 
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nitemoves, I mean it has been on the boards a lot....the thread "should I reveal my number" lots of responses there on the topic.


What do I think of STD's? I don't really. Luckily I don't have to think about them (take that how you wish). I hope that if I enter into a new relationship my future partner has been as boring or responsible as me. I'm not much for "safe" sex. In my opinion, if a condom is neccessary, something is wrong with the relationship.


To me safe sex probably means being with the right person, birth control is a non-issue since I've been on it for years for various reasons having nothing to do with birth control.
 
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It's no one's business....I'm almost 40. I've been dating since I was 16 years old and sexually active since sometime after that...I'm not ashamed of my number, but I'm not sharing it...it's in the past, and it doesn't matter....
 
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shawneeman,164532 wrote :

Not One James? Not even a partial one?
Zip, zero, nada.
 
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cp30,164565 wrote :

nitemoves, I mean it has been on the boards a lot....the thread "should I reveal my number" lots of responses there on the topic.


What do I think of STD's? I don't really. Luckily I don't have to think about them (take that how you wish). I hope that if I enter into a new relationship my future partner has been as boring or responsible as me. I'm not much for "safe" sex. In my opinion, if a condom is neccessary, something is wrong with the relationship.


To me safe sex probably means being with the right person, birth control is a non-issue since I've been on it for years for various reasons having nothing to do with birth control.
The replies to this will be interesting. I grew up during the sexual revolutionand have never used a condom, but I sure am concerned about these things today. Not everyone is as lucky as those who have contracted the HIV virus and still survive. Somethings just don't go away witha pill or a shot. Good health to you in the future.
 
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jamesp81,164571 wrote :

shawneeman,164532 wrote :


Not One James? Not even a partial one?


Zip, zero, nada.




Thanks to good ol' Dr. Asperger, this 30 year old can say the same...
 
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I never ask this and I hate being asked it. I honestly don't remember, so I have to lie with an answer I think she'll find acceptable.
 
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