Question for Discussion: When do Dating Preferences become Racist?

Question for Discussion: When do Dating Preferences become Racist?

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Question for Discussion: When do Dating Preferences become Racist?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  February 9,2011, 7:54pm
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I wasn't there to here the actual conversation, but based on what is in this article he is over reacting IMO.
 
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well i can only state my personal opinion. i think race preference becomes racist depending on the reason behind it. when you start stereotyping. for example i hear guys say 'i will never date black women because they are ALL loud.' well i am not loud, far from it. this to me is insulting and racist. if someone don't want to date black women that's fine by me but when they start throwing in the stereotypes it's a no no. if a person doesn't find someone attractive in that particular race, that is fine but to label ALL the women/men in that race as unattractive etc. is again, racist. imo. as an side not i have had different girlfriends over the years tell me i will have a hard time finding dates b/c a lot of men do not like black women and don't want to date us, only the ones that are biracial are acceptable. I have no idea how true this is, seeing i never been on a date. sad if so. that's my take!
 
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Racism is more about the belief of one race being better then the other.
Preferences are a bit different and are usually based on an attraction, I would think.
 
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In our PC word any mention of race is racist, so take your pick.

But in material object form, nah, preferences ain't racist.
 
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What is the point of this article? They just seem to get worse and worse. The articles from a couple of years were pretty decent. Maybe the well has gone dry.

But I have to say who cares? Like height, age, sex, weight etc. people have their preferences. If you try to throw racism at them in an attemp to get them to date you then you are going to be disapointed with the results.
 
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Oh goody, another race-themed thread!
 
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I would have had the same reaction as the guy in the article ... the woman is rejecting a whole ethnicity based on ... nothing much at all.

It is interesting to me though ... what's the difference between stereotyping and having a preference for a particular race? I don't really get it.
 
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Frogprince - What is the point of the article? Did you read it? I'm not sure I get your exasperation. It's asking a question about when dating preferences become racial prejudice. Seems like a fair question to me.

I'm not sure that this woman is prejudice, but you bet that in the next date I would start asking some questions to find out. falling in love with someone who is carrying around some kind of prejudice isn't what I'm looking for.
 
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He could’ve asked for more detail on the date, but he was a little shocked. He can revisit the topic and if he likes her he might have to. But he was wondering if he just over-reacted, and I think it’s a fair question. Is it okay to say something like this and pass it off as an attraction preference for one ethnic group over another?
well, unless he does ask her, he's doing the same thing to her...as she might be doing to other guys, which is: jumping to conclusions..
So the article is more about jumping to conclusions and misinterpretation about something a person says...not necessarily about racism.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
well, unless he does ask her, he's doing the same thing to her...as she might be doing to other guys, which is: jumping to conclusions..
So the article is more about jumping to conclusions and misinterpretation about something a person says...not necessarily about racism.
That's a good point. It's hard to keep assuming the best of strangers until proven otherwise.
 
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