The wave of single mothers

Its not staggering to me...the reason....these women just had newborns and are rather young and the babies father likely ditched them if they even know. So single mothers are going to be more common on eharmony at a young age because they don't have the freedom to date like other 20 somethings out there because of child responsibility so they cant go out to bars and other nighttime activities but they still would like to find a guy to date and have a love life.

I think it's probably best to be a bit shocked by this than to just accept it as the way things are now. It's very sad, and it's by no means just the women making mistakes here...it seems like a total breakdown, what are kids learning these days about relationships, sex and love and being a parent? It's obviously not good.

All that said, maybe you are in an area where this is more common. I'm sure there will be plenty of women your age never married, never had any kids. It's okay to prefer that, especially at your age.

As for how to handle it. Well, I think it's okay to ask about her situation early on. She should be well aware that having a 6 month old and being 20 is going to bring about questions on an online dating site. I'm sure these women know they will have unique challenges and I'd be suprised if any of them held back about 'what happened'

Don't be afraid to move on if someone doesn't suit you, it's fair to question the decision making skills of these women and question your willingness to get invovled.

There might be someone great in this situaiton (certainly there is a few) so I wouldn't jump to conclusions...unless it is fairly obvious and it should be either in the profile or within a few dates.

Eleven single mothers 22 years and younger?? Wow! That is a big wave.

I know this may sound harsh, and that I'm being judgmental, but if these women are on eH within 12 months of having a baby, I would question their priorities. Instead, I'd hope they'd be working on their college and/or their career, in order to provide a stable environment for their child.

So I think you should ask away, before meeting any of them. If I was a guy looking for a partner who is responsible, I'd look very closely at the circumstances (at least how they're presented) to find a glimmer of this. A young single-mom who has career ambitions will probably not be on eH. Sadly, my guess would be that all of these women need some financial help ASAP.

Should you meet and get involved with one of these women to the point of living together or marriage (in a few years), a reasonable expectation would be for you step up to the plate and treat her children as your own.

Good luck!

Well a little background on myself, some may of seen me introduce myself a month or so ago but I am a 24 (almost 25) male, Im double majoring here on my last semester and I recently got out of the Army. I'm not trying to be knight in shining armor, but what I want to try to be is an intelligent decision maker. Personally, I have no interest in these younger than 20 mothers, its not even so much that they have a kid(s) as much as it is their age. So my 'standard' in the realm of benchmarks is 21 or higher. Now kids I dont have a problem with, the only issue I can foresee with these mothers is that are not wanting of more children, and well i want 1 or possibly more of my own. I cant blame them for not wanting it, they may have been in love and once she got pregnant the guy ran off like a jackass so she has to be nervous and hesitant towards the subject. Granted most females have most likely made up their mine, its either yes or no and not a we'll see. When I mentioned adoption, I meant more so for responsibility sakes, I feel that if you are at the stage of marriage with a woman who has kids that aren't yours and you want kids with her, then I think its sort of your obligation to basically inherit them (i think most people would want to as well) as your own while respecting the part that their real father may/should/could have.