"I only date black girls"


Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
richey is offline richey Post #21  February 3,2011, 12:51pm
richey's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

san francisco, ca

Posts: 2,764

See profile

SweetKisses wrote :
People who say things like this are so full of crap....... I'm sure he hasn't dated every black woman in the world.
Sweetkisses, I'm going to defend the "every X woman i've dated has lied to me" statement here.

When I first started dating, I only dated asian females. Now, I won't even think about dating asian females and haven't for a long long time. Why? Because the first 2 or 3 females I dated were Asians and they did lie to me, and they did break my heart, and they did cheat on me, and one sent me in ridiculously stupid credit card debt that will blow ANYBODY's mind if i mention how much it is.

Although I agree with you conceptually that "oh come on.... you haven't dated EVERY asian female yet!!!!" True. But let me ask you this ~ given my experience with just 2 or 3 of them (covering some 10-11 years).. WHY would i want to continue dating asian females after those experiences? What do I have to go on really, after 10-11 years of being with asian females that it will be any different with other asian females?

Now logistically of course that is a most ridiculous argument. Because I dated 3 out of what... 50 gigawatt trillion asian females in existence between that time and now? But.... we are not machines. We are humans. And the human psyche quite naturally says, "ok that's enough.... forget asian women!" Why? Because there are 500 gigawatt trillion non-asian women i can try instead!

So I think it's reasonable from a human psyche perspective to say if one has had enough bad experience with one type of male or female ~ they will and can justify to themselves not dating males/females with those particular traits any longer. just because the trait this time is "race" doesn't change that very reasonable conclusion.

And just for the record... in L.A. I was around asian females again, and even some of my asian female friends up where i moved back to that i've known some 7 yrs.... believe me.. there is STILL nothing I've experienced that makes me want to go back and date asian females again

Richey
 
  Reply With Quote
CleverUsername is offline CleverUsername Post #22  February 3,2011, 6:21pm
CleverUsernam…'s Avatar

is new to these forums.

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Seattle

Posts: 42

See profile

richey wrote :
But let me ask you this ~ given my experience with just 2 or 3 of them
It's called a stereotype. You are making presumptions about all people of a similar (race/religion) based on your very limited experience. Pretty shallow-minded thing to do really.

After 2 bad experiences eating (insert type of food here) do you then opt to never eat that type of food again?

..I could list thousands of similar examples but I'm not going to take the time..

When you date someone who has the same behavior as the (race/religion) you have stereotyped, do you then re-visit your previous judgement?

You're not the first person I've heard make similar statements.. Do I ignore all of you now because this is more than once?

*shakes head*
 
  Reply With Quote
wheel_on_fire is offline wheel_on_fire Post #23  February 4,2011, 5:21am
wheel_on_fire's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Mar 2010

Southeast US

Posts: 31

See profile

OP, I'd say it's a minor red flag at worst. Keep your eyes open and I'm sure if he really has any deep seated racial attitude issues they will become apparent pretty quickly.

To the PC police in this thread: I guess I should keep quiet about my physical preferences in a dating partner for the sake of not offending you? As Richey already pointed out attraction isn't logical, fair, or politically correct. I'm sorry, but looking for a specific physical feature in a mate does not necessarily make someone a closed minded racist.
 
  Reply With Quote
CleverUsername is offline CleverUsername Post #24  February 4,2011, 1:04pm
CleverUsernam…'s Avatar

is new to these forums.

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Seattle

Posts: 42

See profile

wheel_on_fire wrote :
To the PC police in this thread: I guess I should keep quiet about my physical preferences in a dating partner for the sake of not offending you? As Richey already pointed out attraction isn't logical, fair, or politically correct. I'm sorry, but looking for a specific physical feature in a mate does not necessarily make someone a closed minded racist.
I'm just going to assume this comment was in reference to my post. And since I really dislike the improper use of the term "Racist" I'll take a moment to educate you a little further.

Please note:
nowhere in my post did I tell him he didn't have the right to have his own preferences regarding what he's "attracted" to.
nowhere in my post did I call him a "closed minded racist"

What I *did* say, was that it was pretty shallow minded to judge an entire category of people (in this case - race) based on the experience with two to three individuals.

Someone who is a "racist" is (generally speaking) a person with a prejudiced belief that one race is superior to others, also someone who also has hatred or intolerance of another race or races.

A "stereotype" is to classify all people of a (race/religion) to have a behavior noticed in some.

Personally I don't care what your preferences are in potential partners, any race, religion, height, weight, age, whatever, but to hear someone say they are going to exclude an entire race based on limited experience, I had to laugh. Whatever you find attractive is up to you and I'm not going to critisize what you prefer.

These women lied, cheated, broke your heart, and one you claim racked up a huge credit card debit. And because the first couple you met were Asian you're going to avoid all Asians from now on. I could introduce you to MANY non-Asian women who have done similar (and much worse) things to people I know. If you've dated Asian women in the past, I'm going to take a guess that you *are* attracted to them, so I find it closed-minded to avoid women you are attracted to because two or three of them have done things I've heard of various raced women doing.
 
  Reply With Quote
frogprince is offline frogprince Post #25  February 4,2011, 5:37pm
frogprince's Avatar

is at home.

Enthusiast

Joined: Jul 2010

Posts: 774

See profile

I don't see anything wrong with this. You are attracted to whom you are attracted to. It is easier to find black women with a certain body type perhaps this is what he is attracted to or maybe he just dated a black woman once and that got him hooked.

Why should it bother you? I would be more worried about someone dating a black woman for the first time then later realizing he didn't want the negative attention that a mixed race couple might encounter.

I thought about dating black women. I got into open communication with two very attractive black women with great personalities and jobs. But at the end you can't just force yourself into something you just dont' want. To say limiting your race of someone else is wrong is ridiculous. No more than saying someone should not limit who they date by height or by weight. You have to be attracted to whom you date or it isn't fair to the other person.
 
  Reply With Quote
CleverUsername is offline CleverUsername Post #26  February 4,2011, 9:10pm
CleverUsernam…'s Avatar

is new to these forums.

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Seattle

Posts: 42

See profile

frogprince wrote :
Why should it bother you?
To say limiting your race of someone else is wrong is ridiculous.
This is getting rather annoying so this will be my last post on this topic. I'll assume the above mentioned comments were again directed at my posts, so here goes.

I don't care if you limit the race(s) you prefer to date, go right ahead - it DOESN'T bother me. I don't care what your preferences are, short, tall, fat, barely legal, in a walker, left handed, only one race, excluding one race, I could care LESS.

Specifically - this is the comment I have a problem with.

richey wrote :
Now, I won't even think about dating asian females and haven't for a long long time. Why? Because the first 2 or 3 females I dated were Asians and they did lie to me, and they did break my heart, and they did cheat on me
His stereotype is implying that all Asian women will break your heart, cheat on you, and potentially more - simply from his experience dating 2 or 3 of them.

I don't care what his preference is for people whom he wants to date, but to imply that all Asian women are going to do the same thing that these two or three did - that is called a stereotype and I consider that being shallow minded.
 
  Reply With Quote
szgorzelski is offline szgorzelski Post #27  February 5,2011, 9:42am
szgorzelski's Avatar

is on beercation.

Veteran

Joined: Jan 2010

Fort Eustis, VA

Posts: 1,413

See profile

Black girls are the one and only race I haven't had much luck with. I have to admit that. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's the stereotype that all white guys have smaller penises than blacks or that white guys just aren't cool.
 
  Reply With Quote
Stormin is offline Stormin Post #28  February 8,2012, 6:26am
Stormin's Avatar

Joined: Feb 2012

Posts: 1

See profile

keresenzia wrote :
Hello good people. I have been communicating with this man in EH. We just got into OC last night and we were having what I term good conversation until I asked what he is looking for on EH. He said he wanted to meet a good black girl since it is hard to meet black girls in the city we live in other than a popular "black" club. He went on to add that he only dates black women. Apparently last r.shp was 2 years ago.
Well his response left a bit dumbfounded and I am not sure how I feel about this. I am black btw. Do people actually only date a certain race? I have heard other black men say they only date black women but because this came from a caucasian man, I guess it somewhat made me wonder and threw me off a little... Any thoughts?
Ok here's the deal....Black Women and White women have some differences (and they are obvious lol) but there all women. One generally should discrimenate against any race. However, with that being said (and I'm well experienced with this...I am Caucasian and been with the best ).....if a man can't be or isn't attracted to black women he doesn't know what its all about or doesn't see the beauty that I see (and beauty means more than the flesh)!! Additionally, I would advise that there are good white men out here but I would venture to guess that most white men that want to be with a black woman (gurl) will not step up to the plate with 100% respect, i.e. don'thave the balls to put it out there and treat the black woman in every way and fashion the way they would being more comfortable with their own race or a less contrasting race.....just look around. There aren't a whol;e lot of us but there are some causcasinas taht step up to the palte (not only me). Just make sure he treats you the best and don't give it up right away..........try me back if you want more info...I have volumes.....I mean to me its a no brainer but you have to be able to handle it if you want to keep it real!! Peace...my nickname is "Whitey"
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« Three Critical Steps to Finding Your Dream Woman | Dating | Question for guys-is it too much? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
What's up with our men??? Maasai 4 us Black Women/Men ISO 42 April 11,2012 3:44pm
Third Date Surgtech Dating 13 July 28,2010 11:25am
"I won't date a guy unless he makes as much money as me." therealitypolice Dating 120 November 26,2009 5:56pm
Should We Date Outside Our Race If We Can't Find Love Of A Black Men Or Women ? Honey45 4 us Black Women/Men ISO 8 August 12,2009 4:31pm
Old Fashioned Romance & Courtship Just_A_Thought Love in Color 78 May 31,2009 6:54pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Sometimes it is better than going on a so-so date just to fill your calendar.” –  sun73

Join the “dreaded free weekend” discussion

“When a man dates women, especially exclusively, who are much more physically attractive, I think he gets exactly what he's asking for and what he deserves - a woman who is not physically attracted to ... ” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “My first "Matchmaker" date” discussion

“Always trust your instincts.” –  sun73

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion

“ I was never into David Cassidy. Now, Shaun Cassidy... loved him! (And he was such a girl, too. So pretty!) I still have his album, too. I think it has my sister's name sticker on it, too. ” –  mitchell175

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion

“I enjoy walking my german shepherd.” –  sun73

Join the “Friday Night Roll Call !!! Sweaty Summer Fun edition!” discussion

“Hmm. I think we are using the term 'preference' differently. Anyway, you can choose 'not important' for everything if you want the widest range of choices possible. If you do that and still don't get ... ” –  mitchell175

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Seriously? That cloud looks nothing like George Clooney!” –  mitchell175

Join the “Comment to win a FREE month of eHarmony!” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 2:38am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0