Nice Guys Finish Last ?

There's no such thing as a genuinely nice person, unless they have some sort of mental handicap. People are not naturally nice. All earthly animals are selfish by nature. This includes humans.

We have to be taught at an early age to share and be nice to others. We are "taught" it because it does not come naturally. We don't have to be taught to be selfish and mean. Why? Because it comes natural to us. Niceness is a learned behavior. Manners is a learned behavior. We have to make laws to prevent us from killing each other. We have to constantly remind our children to play nice. There really is no naturally nice person. There are people who are more good than others and there are people who have been molded well by their parents. I suppose you could consider these people to be "nice", but they weren't born that way. In times of famine, the most dangerous, vicious, and violent people are children who live on their own or in packs of children. This has been documented. Without adults to rear them, these children act in a human's natural state. No one was around to teach them to share. No one taught them to be "nice". They are selfish and only care about their own survival.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being selfish. Selfishness is what helps any animal to survive. In a way, being a "nice guy" or a "good man" is selfish itself. People are nice for all sorts of reasons, mostly because it makes them feel good to be nice. No one is nice just to be nice. There's always something in it for them, even if it's just good feelings for doing a good deed.

So I don't believe all this nice guy/bad guy nonsense. Being a nice guy is just as much playing a game as being a "playa".

Am I a good guy or a bad guy? I never beat my wife, I bought her flowers for special occasions, I opened doors for her almost always, etc. However, I did those things because I knew she'd like them. Don't get me wrong, I genuinely loved my wife. However, life was a lot easier when she was happy with me than when she was mad at me. I think most guys can relate. There's not a male alive who does nice things for his wife just to be nice. There's a wide variety of reasons for doing, some of which I mentioned. It could be to feel good about himself, it could be get her on his good side, it could be the satisfaction of knowing he did something nice, etc etc etc. There is no unselfish good deed. It doesn't exist.

With all that said, there are men who are genuinely less "bad" than other men. I suppose you could call these men "good guys". Are they less bad because they were raised that way, because they think women will like it, because being good keeps their family together better, because mother nature has made it instinct to keep their family happy so see he can procreate further with his wife to further distribute his seed, or are there men that are genuinely naturally nice who receive absolutely no reward whatsoever for being a "nice guy"?

Empathy in my heart, yes.

But the hugs are in my arms

Hello...I think nice guys are great and so do my friends. Is there something missing from this picture?