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lookformysunshine is offline lookformysunshine Post #1  January 16,2011, 10:19am
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I met a guy on eH. He is good-looking for me on the pics, I like his stories in his profile, he sounds like a decent person, and I enjoy chatting with him.

It happened twice after he suggested to meet in person, he just disappeared for 1 week, and then sent me message saying something unexpected happened. We talked on phone, and in the past week we texted almost every day - I felt good.

On Last Thursday, he is back in town from a business trip, and we were talking about meeting in the weekend. He said "Lunch on Saturday might be a good start?" and then "Or a drink later on Friday night? I have a early dinner that I have to go." I said lunch on Saturday sounds good. He said ok we can catch up to finalize a plan on Friday.

But on Friday, I didn't heard from him at all. So I texted him "Is lunch tomorrow still on?" No response. I called him on Saturday, left a voice message "Not sure what is happening in your life, but I hope all is well with you." No reply.

I don't think I did anything wrong... (or did I?) He was probably just taking me as a backup or something. But it is kind of weird, and I'm still a little confused... That's why I am typing here. Any thoughts?
 
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This guy obviously has his plate full of other dates and can't even keep a simple commitment of a date, let alone a call to you..

I would send this one along his way and find someone who is excited about meeting you and knows how to follow through!

Good luck..
 
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Special-K is offline Special-K Post #3  January 16,2011, 10:26am
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He is stranded in an avalanche somewhere... likely had to eat his arms to stay alive, thereby making it impossible to reach his phone to respond. They'll find him soon and it will be fun to hear the details of his heroic survival.

In all seriousness, he flaked... close him and move on w/ your life.
 
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Special-K wrote :
He is stranded in an avalanche somewhere... likely had to eat his arms to stay alive, thereby making it impossible to reach his phone to respond. They'll find him soon and it will be fun to hear the details of his heroic survival.

In all seriousness, he flaked... close him and move on w/ your life.


I agree with you and Ingy - I wouldn't waste my time on him. Move on.
 
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What Ingy states here is very true, and unfortunately, so common that words like "poof" and "flake" are invented to describe the phenomenon.
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This guy obviously has his plate full of other dates and can't even keep a simple commitment of a date, let alone a call to you..I would send this one along his way and find someone who is excited about meeting you and knows how to follow through!Good luck..
 
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It does sound like he's flaked -- sorry! Either he's got someone else going, or he just wasn't interested enough, or he's flaky by nature, or he's just playing around with EH and doesn't intend to meet anyone, or he got cold feet, or or or ...

No I don't think you did anything wrong.

Just remember you haven't met him, he doesn't know you, and try not to take it personally.
 
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lookformysunshine wrote :
I don't think I did anything wrong... (or did I?)
Nope.. you didn't

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He was probably just taking me as a backup or something.
Bingo!

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But it is kind of weird, and I'm still a little confused... That's why I am typing here. Any thoughts?
Don't know what there is to be confused about?

You contacted him twice to confirm the Saturday lunch and got no response. This is a crystal ball to how he handles things..

I would suggest not to contact him again, and if he comes back around.. expect more of the same at some point..
 
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yeah, he's flaked, as everyone else has said. he is juggling several dates, obviously, and you were just one of many and he didn't have time to try to coordinate a meeting with you.

don't take it personally, he doesn't even know you. and don't go out with him if he does call you next week, once his other dates fall through. he's already shown his true colors. forget him.
 
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LOL... has flaked replaced poofed in 2011..
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
LOL... has flaked replaced poofed in 2011..
It has been a cold and blustery winter...
 
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