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What exactly do you need to know to be a dating success in La La Land?
- June 15th, 2008, 12:31 pm
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great, so now I have to move to find love. (haha?)
- June 15th, 2008, 12:37 pm
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The most amusing thing about this article is that the author advocates living in any of a list of places, then finding work nearby in order to 'avoid a long commute'.


You're a new transplant to LA yourself, aren't you? Living in The Basin is all about driving. People who were born here don't even think about an hour commute, or an hour drive to visit a friend. It's just the way things are. Rapid Transit? That's the biggest oxymoron in all of LA. You need a vehicle of your own. There's no other way.


The casual nature of LA is a bit overblown in this article, but only a bit. The suit-and-sneakers thing is mostly a west-side phenom, and you'll find much more conservative dress inland and south in OC.


The one most-accurate sentence in this article is this: "...it’s important to remember that in terms of meeting the opposite sex, there is no one 'Los Angeles.'" What people call "LA" is actually a patchwork of dozens, if not hundreds, of smaller cities that blend together across the Basin. Unlike in the East, there is little or no space or greenbelt between townships - just a sign posted on the sidewalk that you usually miss - because you're driving. The Basin is better described by its regions:West-side/downtown is highest-end urban with a movie-business twist. Inland has a more midwestern feel, if you can avoid looking at the flip-flops and skateboards. Down south is Money and Upscale. South Central... Well, make sure you've got good life insurance.


Dating here is just like everywhere else. You just have to drive farther to do it.


And for heaven's sake, never take the I-5.
- June 15th, 2008, 12:54 pm
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Glider_Pilot wrote :

The most amusing thing about this article is that the author advocates living in any of a list of places, then finding work nearby in order to 'avoid a long commute'.


You're a new transplant to LA yourself, aren't you? Living in The Basin is all about driving. People who were born here don't even think about an hour commute, or an hour drive to visit a friend. It's just the way things are. Rapid Transit? That's the biggest oxymoron in all of LA. You need a vehicle of your own. There's no other way.


The casual nature of LA is a bit overblown in this article, but only a bit. The suit-and-sneakers thing is mostly a west-side phenom, and you'll find much more conservative dress inland and south in OC.


The one most-accurate sentence in this article is this: "...it’s important to remember that in terms of meeting the opposite sex, there is no one 'Los Angeles.'" What people call "LA" is actually a patchwork of dozens, if not hundreds, of smaller cities that blend together across the Basin. Unlike in the East, there is little or no space or greenbelt between townships - just a sign posted on the sidewalk that you usually miss - because you're driving. The Basin is better described by its regions:West-side/downtown is highest-end urban with a movie-business twist. Inland has a more midwestern feel, if you can avoid looking at the flip-flops and skateboards. Down south is Money and Upscale. South Central... Well, make sure you've got good life insurance.


Dating here is just like everywhere else. You just have to drive farther to do it.


And for heaven's sake, never take the I-5.
A car helps, but aChristian can also look beyond material possessions.


I dated a few Christian women in three years lived inL.A. (Los Feliz)and didn't own a car.


I couldn't afford to buy one, yet still desired tohave a relationship with God and others (including women),and took the bus & subway to church, work & social eventslike others w/o vehicles.








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great, so now I have to move to find love. (haha?)
Listen I am waaaaay too old for you,I get that, but you gotta be kidding me





Are you competing with movie actresses or models down there?





By your avatar picture, you are HOT as H E L L and if you dress like that, if you walk down the street you would cause car wrecks right and left around here and men looked at you and crashed into things.





I am not kidding. Unless you have hideous personality flaws, grotesque deformities not shown in the picture, you are on your way, nothing at ALL to worry about.





Swear to god, you are just one amazing looking hottie and I bet you know it.W


What is the matter with men down there? < scratches head >





Somebody looked like you ever showed up in one of these small Sierra foothil towns, man, you'd be in paradise, get booked up for months.....
- June 15th, 2008, 03:27 pm
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Glider_Pilot wrote :

The most amusing thing about this article is that the author advocates living in any of a list of places, then finding work nearby in order to 'avoid a long commute'.


You're a new transplant to LA yourself, aren't you? Living in The Basin is all about driving. People who were born here don't even think about an hour commute, or an hour drive to visit a friend. It's just the way things are. Rapid Transit? That's the biggest oxymoron in all of LA. You need a vehicle of your own. There's no other way.


The casual nature of LA is a bit overblown in this article, but only a bit. The suit-and-sneakers thing is mostly a west-side phenom, and you'll find much more conservative dress inland and south in OC.


The one most-accurate sentence in this article is this: "...it’s important to remember that in terms of meeting the opposite sex, there is no one 'Los Angeles.'" What people call "LA" is actually a patchwork of dozens, if not hundreds, of smaller cities that blend together across the Basin. Unlike in the East, there is little or no space or greenbelt between townships - just a sign posted on the sidewalk that you usually miss - because you're driving. The Basin is better described by its regions:West-side/downtown is highest-end urban with a movie-business twist. Inland has a more midwestern feel, if you can avoid looking at the flip-flops and skateboards. Down south is Money and Upscale. South Central... Well, make sure you've got good life insurance.


Dating here is just like everywhere else. You just have to drive farther to do it.


And for heaven's sake, never take the I-5.
You know what you are talking about, those remarks are dead-on.


Comports EXACTLY with my experience when I was down there for about a week in the Valley last Oct-November





The Mercedes mechanic in Tarzana that worked on my car offered me a Mercedes to use, and I told him, no nevermind, I will take the bus (Ventura Blvd, Tarzana to Encino...)


I figured how much could this be worse that San Francisco where I had walked and took the bus every where?





hahahahaha what a joke. The bus, WHEN it came, was full of homeless, illegal Mexicans, kids, really old poor people, and it took a long time to get short distances





When I got back I mentioned it to the Mechanic, a guy who is from Spain. He laughed and told me he had been here 22 years.





And NEVER had taken a bus.





NOT ONCE.





BH/Westside/Newport and all of that is interesting but plastic, to me. Look at all those glammed up women in their 50s driving non metallic pastel Mercedes 560SL convertible sports cars, wafting from the Polo Lounge of the Beverly Hills Hotel to the Palm Springs tennis club. Their yappy little poodle dogs that run around in circles and pee on your carpet.


Bunch of airheads, losers, druggies, Juicers, all they are good for is whipping away the assets of men. Spare me.





Thinbi I exaggerage? Then look in the yellow pages at the listings for cosmetic dentistry, and plastic surgeons, in the Newport Beach, Beverly Hills, and Santa Monica phone books





After a week I "got it". Stay off the free ways from 7am to 7 pm. PERIOD. (except from 10-2)


Otherwise it is a parking lot. It's a great freeway system but it is too damned clogged up.


Total car culture, which is why I adore it. Yes, you are judged by your car. Fine with me, bring it on, my Merecedes is a black one, it is real cool, I knew I had it made when I noticed people crowded around it outside a Cuban restaruant on Ventura Blvd in Encino.


But then, I already knew it. Twelve years ago I got it at the Mercedes dealer in OC, Buena Park near Disneyland.


Guy who owned the Beverly Hills Hotel had owned it. I went up to Wilshire Blvd and talked to him. He told me his 27 year old wife thought it was TOO FLASHY FOR BEVERLY HILLS.


He bought her a BMW. hahahaha I still have that old car.





I HEART LA = just like Randy Newman does....
- June 15th, 2008, 03:47 pm
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Ok, Im decent looking...but Im here to meet guys who can move past how I look and like me for me. I feel like in LA being "pretty" can work against you if youre looking for a relationship. Thanks though, youre sweet!
- June 15th, 2008, 08:58 pm
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Ok, Im decent looking...but Im here to meet guys who can move past how I look and like me for me. I feel like in LA being "pretty" can work against you if youre looking for a relationship...
I have no experience being a beautiful woman, but I expect that the real problem is weeding through the larger number of men that come your way. You're probably getting the same number of 'serious minded' men as anybody else, but your looks are drawing in larger numbers of players, boys-in-mens-bodies, only-looking-for-sex-guys, etc.


I'd say that's a mixed bag. I'm sure all the attention is fun to have, but weeding through the 'chaff' can make for a lot of going-nowhere dates, I'm sure. Is that what you're experiencing?


I doubt it's solely an LA problem, but depending on where you live in the Basin, looks are a premium in some areas more than others.
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I doubt it's solely an LA problem, but depending on where you live in the Basin, looks are a premium in some areas more than others.
Like perhaps, Beverly Hills as opposed to City of Industry?,,
- June 15th, 2008, 09:49 pm
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Ok, Im decent looking...but Im here to meet guys who can move past how I look and like me for me. I feel like in LA being "pretty" can work against you if youre looking for a relationship. Thanks though, youre sweet!
You should relocate to City of Industry....
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