pauline5296 is offline pauline5296 Post #1  December 6,2010, 12:57pm
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I used to work at a grocery store years ago where I met this guy who still works there. We were nothing more than friends outside of work. I shop there pretty frequently, not because of him. I really like the store and the quality of products.

Anyways, occassionally when I see him there and go through his line, he makes comments like, "well you're cute" or "you're single, right?" And I never took it as interest, I figured he was just making small talk, etc... I don't pick up on these things, not sure why.

The other day, I went shopping to pick up a few things and he was there. I asked him how his Thanksgiving holiday was. And we talked for a bit. Then he suggested that we go out sometime. He gave me his phone number and asked me to call him. I agreed that it would be fun to go out and I told him that I would call him.

I called him a couple days later and got his voicemail. I tend to get nervous and toungue tied when leaving messages and sometimes I start babbling if I'm nervous. Which is what happened here. I said hi, then went on to say that we should go out, it would be fun. Then, this is where I think it went downhill.

I said, "We can catch up, I 'd like to hear about the latest gossip at the store. I have finals coming up in the next couple of weeks, but give me a call so we can set something up." Yikes.... seeing what I said on the screen makes me want to hide under the covers.

Of course, I haven't heard from him. It's been about 3 days since I left the message. I'm thinking that my message sounded like a babbling idiot talking to her girlfriend, rather than a romantic interest. I am interested in him, but do you think that I blew it? I'm not sure what I should do from here if anything.
 
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Wait, just wait.

Don't do anything.

I think the message was just fine - there was nothing outrageous about it.

He must be busy the last 3 days.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  December 6,2010, 1:14pm
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Singlencooking wrote :
Wait, just wait.

Don't do anything.

I think the message was just fine - there was nothing outrageous about it.

He must be busy the last 3 days.
Or he is going by that rule not to call too soon so he doesnt look desperate.

Dont look at me. I didnt make up that rule.
 
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jme21 is offline jme21 Post #4  December 6,2010, 1:14pm
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Hmm...you're freaking out over nothing. There's nothing wrong with your message and the ball is in his court now.
 
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Your message was fine. What you said you said is not weird, it's not too much -- it's just friendly. Hopefully he'll call!
 
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Any guy who doesn't think that your message is adorable and cute that you are nervous calling them...isn't the guy for you!..

I told the guy I'm dating how I felt like a teenager when I would run into him walking my dog..and get all giddy and stumble over my words..He thinks that is the greatest thing ever!!!
 
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You did leave your number right?
 
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don't you need to pick up some eggs ...
 
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the only thing... (and this is being very nit-picky.. so take it with a grain of salt) is that you mentioned "to catch pu on store gossip." It is minutely possible he took that as you having alterior motive for seeing him.

But again that's being nit-picky and not HUGE deal. Just in the future I would recommend keeping it to messages that say "i want to spend time with you to spend time with you..." don't try to come up with justification or reasonings for getting together to try and not look too into him.

YO'ure interested in him. It's okay to let him know and let him think that and let it stand on its own

Good luck!

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Thank you all for your input and advice. I really worked myself up thinking that my message was goofy.

Richey, I thought about that too. Next time I won't mention gossip. lol
I went into the store today to get some things for class and he was working. He was his typical friendly self. He said that he lost my number because his son erased the messages on his answering machine. He asked me to write it down. So, I gave him my number again. I don't know what to think about that...

I'll see what he does from here and I will definitley keep you posted. Thanks again,

Pauline
 
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