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bluskies4ever is offline bluskies4ever Post #41  March 2,2011, 7:31pm
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Because you think about the other person's feelings, and not just your own. It's called empathy, you dig?


And even if you live in a town much bigger than Mayberry, word of mouth spreads like wildfire. It's prudent to protect our own reputation in business, and dating/relating. It's called social and emotional intelligence, and civility.

The President the other day was encouraging us, as a nation, to hone our civility skills.
 
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Xable wrote :
No spark dates seem to be norm. I've never had a spark date. For those of you who have, you seem to be the lucky few. I'm beginning to wonder if this isn't another disservice thanks to Hollywood. And I wonder how many great people we pass up because we are waiting for our instant sparks.
You have a very good point. I actually love getting to know people and you cannot do that by making snap judgements. Some of my best friends are people who I started out thinking I might date. You cannot know someone after 15 minutes. This is not a "Sex and the City" episode. When people stop waiting for the "TV reality show" life and start realizing that everyone has something to offer, even if you do not want to marry them, we will all be better off.

I also believe too many people are going on first dates without any real communication with the other person. If they could tell after 15 minutes that it was a no, maybe they could have eliminated that prospect with a few emails or phone calls instead.
 
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BabyYoda wrote :
My thread was inspired by another poster who queried about a particular action while daing, but during the course of explaining her story engaged in another action that I find equally puzzling.

Do any of you stay on dates knowing that you already decided that the date isn't going anywhere? If so, why???? Why not end the date as soon as you made your judgement and rendered your decision? What good is your gracefulness(to stay on a dead end date) to your date when you plan on never going out with your date again?


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As I never "dated" (I did / shared what I loved doing), never have I even thought of leaving. When I am doing what I like doing (whether it be hiking, cooking, giving a massage), why should I want to stop? Yep, I have had some whoppers (mostly due to their gross misrepresentation of age/weight), no regrets, enjoyed myself thoroughly... next.

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I did have a date asked to be excused to go to the restroom during what I thought was a perfect evening. Excellent timing because it was right before the waiter brought the check. I'm guessing the restroom must have been in another state because I wound up paying for both meals. Maybe they fell in the toilet; either that or alien abuduction, I'm not sure which, LOL!

I really don't understand why people pretend to be having a good time if they are not. I get the whole being rude thing, but if you really aren't enjoying yourself why suffer in silence?
"I really don't understand why people pretend to be having a good time if they are not"

It is how the have learned (habitually) to deal with their weakness / feelings of inadequacy. Even when my "date" said she was going to pick up the tab for whatever we were doing, I have always planned (intended?) on picking up the full expense, for I was doing what I enjoyed. If it was something I would not enjoy doing on my own / by my initiation, I would not do it
 
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