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I have to talk to him to clarify what each of us meant!
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This is BS. Sorry. he's trying to get himself out of trouble with you.

I had a friend's boyfriend hit on me repeatedly, then told me he was 'testing me' to see how good of a friend I was to her.
 
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Or, if not BS, it is pathethic games.

Like fake offers to pay, used by women as a "test."

So, despite the popularity of such tests, not at all a sign of a healthy character.
 
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Drop him. Like the previous posters have made clear. Both situations are low and speak wonders about his true character.
 
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I'll try to be the devil's advocate here. He may be trying to flirt with you. Maybe he wants to build a better chemistry with you and this is his way of initiating it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with, just don't reciprocate and lead him on if you are not into him or not ready.

PS: If he is "testing" you. Then its a sign of mistrust, big red flag.
 
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Drop him. Like the previous posters have made clear. Both situations are low and speak wonders about his true character.
LOL - yeah, it's a 'no-win' either way, right?
 
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Engineer wrote :
I'll try to be the devil's advocate here. He may be trying to flirt with you. Maybe he wants to build a better chemistry with you and this is his way of initiating it.

Asking for, offering, or exchanging naughty photos or explicit communication is fine. Yes, this is flirting. And fun.

Asking for them, when you are going to hold it against a match who gives them, is not flirting. This is bad news.
 
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Testing is usually a sign of someone that doesn't trust anyone. Ever. They will continue to put out tests until you fail one and use it as an excuse of how awful you are and dump you.

If he asks for something he doesn't actually want, he has issues. He could also turn it around on you later and say you don't "really" like him and try guilt tripping you about it.

It is truly a no win situation. Move on. Or, call him on it and give him one more chance. Unfortunately, it will be like you testing him on if he can go without testing you.
 
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This is BS. Sorry. he's trying to get himself out of trouble with you.

I had a friend's boyfriend hit on me repeatedly, then told me he was 'testing me' to see how good of a friend I was to her.
I agree with this the most. He probably started it off by trying to be flirty, insisted when you said no, but now that he sees you're no game no matter what... He wants to save face trying to come off as someone who would never do something like this.

Kind of like people who say something very insulting, but then when you get insulted they go like "it was just a joke!" when in reality, it probably wasn't.

Dunno if it's a big red flag kind of thing though. Is it?
 
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Harryoss wrote :
I agree with this the most. He probably started it off by trying to be flirty, insisted when you said no, but now that he sees you're no game no matter what... He wants to save face trying to come off as someone who would never do something like this.

Kind of like people who say something very insulting, but then when you get insulted they go like "it was just a joke!" when in reality, it probably wasn't.

Dunno if it's a big red flag kind of thing though. Is it?
Yep...agree with this..I'm sure that he enjoyed this with the other women but trying to act like he doesn't like it now that you aren't going along..

Please be extremely careful to ever do this even for fun...that's how photos wind up on the internet for all to see!
 
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