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KungFuFtr is offline KungFuFtr Post #31  November 27,2010, 12:08pm
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If she used the words "let's be friends"; then, she wants you to accept the role as a friend. If she had said "let's be lovers", would you question what she had said? Probably not.

I would assume that if a lady was over at my place and me hers and we've spent time together, that we would at least be friends. Why would anyone have to give you a title as a "friend"? The title "friend" can define and limit you. It can set some boundaries. This role may only be temporary.
 
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LDJ wrote :
|Maybe a conversation with her about chemistry is a good idea. Ask her what she thinks it is, how much she believes in it, does she think it takes time to develop or should be there right away. Ask her if she has had past relationships with great physical chemistry.

You should get some indication from her reponse as to whether she thinks there could be more romance between you two in time, or is she has limited past experience or is fearful in some way or if the friend zone is where she has already decided to place you.

Don't be shy to share with her the fact that the sorts of activiites she describes you two sharing as friends are activiites for dating and building a intimate relationship in your mind.
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People have different definitions of what "chemistry" means! To some women, especially the less experienced ones, it can be hard ot pinpoint. Also, some women believe friends-before-romantic interests, and by "friending" you she may be telling you you guys need to cool of a bit while she sorts things out??? Very muddy way though, and she's the only one that can give you a definite answer on this!!!

Discuss the concept of chemistry and how long she usually waits to see it develop!
 
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JackAfrica is offline JackAfrica Post #33  November 28,2010, 2:00am

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SomeGuy009 wrote :
The coldness you are referring to also seems severe, given the fact that she could interpret my actions/words to relay the same "covert signals of low attraction", and I am incredibly attracted to her....
I get that you are attracted to her. The problem is that she is not attracted to you " in that way".
You ever hear of the Bottom Line Factor in the dating world ?

It says. " Only a woman's actions truly reflect her feelings toward you."

I did not write that but I sure wish I did because it is gold.

I will leave you to discover the truth in that statement.
 
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