Sparkles56 is offline Sparkles56 Post #1  November 25,2010, 9:18am
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

So I check out my daily eH matches this morning and notice that one of them looks really familiar, as does her name. After racking my brain and digging around my bookshelves for high school yearbooks, I find out that this girl was a class ahead of me at my old high school. I looked her up on Facebook and sure enough we have a lot of friends in common. So I dropped her a line via FB and asked her if she wanted to meet next week.

Has anyone run into someone, on eH, that they knew (or knew of) in a "past life"? How did it go when you went out with this person?

Since I really didn't know this girl in HS, if she accepts my invitation I'll just treat it like she was someone I met in the grocery store or whatever.

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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  November 25,2010, 9:31am
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Dude, if she looks familiar and still looks like she did in high school....woo hoo!
 
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CestMoi is offline CestMoi Post #3  November 25,2010, 10:16am
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No, I haven't had anything like that happen. Do you mean you'll just treat the situation like you didn't see her on eHarmony?
 
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Was matched with someone I went to college with...he closed me so fast!
 
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beasioux wrote :
Was matched with someone I went to college with...he closed me so fast!
Maybe your eyes scared him!
 
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I would just communicate with her on EH---not on facebook....unless you really knew her in high school outside of someone you recognized.

emailing her out of the blue can come off to a woman as stalkerish.
 
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A few weeks ago, I was matched with a guy who was in the class ahead of mine in high school. We didn't know each other but had mutual acquaintances. He eventually closed me out -- I have no idea if he made the connection.

Around the same time, I was matched with an old boyfriend I still see occasionally as a friend. I haven't raised the issue with him; from some of what's in his profile, I suspect he hasn't been a paying member in a few years.
 
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My advice is to communicate via EH, however let her know of the connection. She may not have the memory you have.

On a side note, I was contacted via the classmates site by someone I knew in high school, however we never dated. Have any of you experienced connections via that site? From his emails, he appears interested, so we shall see how things progress.
 
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Dear Sparkles56,

Yes, communicate via eHarmony since you'll learn many things through the Guided Communication Process - but let her know along the way that her name and face struck you as familiar.

Using Facebook strikes me as having the potential for awkwardness whereas eHarmony allows a person to close communication along the way if he or she so desires without having to explain.

A good principle, it would seem, is if you're being introduced to someone online through some site, continue to use that site rather than changing venues.

You can change venues with the agreement of the other person IF you all happen to reach Open Communication (OC). Makes it better for everyone and doesn't put a person on the spot as much as FB does.

There was a very nice lady who used to be here and I recall her story. She was a nurse in SC who was matched with someone she knew (was acquainted with).

They had a mutual friend who she had call the guy and see if he remembered being acquainted with her.

The end of the story was he closed the match very quickly without communicating. She wrote a thread about it here a few years ago. Can't recall her screen name right off.

It's just better to communicate through the forum you meet instead of shortcutting.

I do hope she accepts your invitation.

Write and let us know if it's a "Go!"

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I was matched with someone who was a year behind me in high school; however, we didn’t know each other then. We went through GC and discovered the connection in OC. Not only did we go to the same high school, we went to the same college. He was very excited to meet and share our similar experiences, starting his email with “OMG!” He gave me his number and very enthusiastically asked me to call him. I thought, even if it isn’t a love connection, how cool to meet someone in this way with such similarities. I called, he poofed. I was new to eHarmony and he was one of the first guys I connected with. I was surprised by the ease of insensitivity. Unfortunately, I’ve since learned how common poofing and unreciprocated communication is in online dating.

Although you’re strangers, maybe you’re a tiny bit less so since you have friends in common and are linked through FB (a few less than six degrees of separation.) I understand why you might want to connect through Facebook as it gives you the opportunity to explain your shared past. However, I agree with the other posters regarding connecting through eHarmony. If you don’t hear from her on FB, maybe you can contact her once more and let her know you’ll send communication through eHarmony where you recognized her from _______ High School. Good luck making the connection!
 
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