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Texting is not romantic!!!
Yes it is!
 
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I think texting can be romantic, if it's done right. Otherwise I agree with this point in the article:

1.“I’m scared of you.”
Every time you communicate with someone, the recipient is aware that you had multiple methods available. You could have called, e-mailed, showed up at her doorstep, sent a singing telegram — the possibilities are endless. When a guy texts, it’s clear he chose to do so, leaving the suspicion that he’s too scared of you to actually speak with you, doesn’t have clue how to start a conversation, or is suffering from a social anxiety disorder.

To me, texting is not a way to get to know someone. You can't have an actual conversation via text (which includes voices and expressions). You can't read someones initial reactaion, in a text it's all thought out and edited. How fun is that? If you want to get to know me, take the time to do it. Don't treat me as just another number in your phone.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Texting is not romantic!!!

It's also lazy, grounds for grievous miscommunication, and STUPID !!!



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Texting separates the old "frats" from the new ones.

I think if someone was afraid to try new things . . . that might be a deal breaker for me. It means you can/might/coulda been inflexible! I might go so far as to say "boring" which is death for any relationship.
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6dle899 wrote :
It's also lazy, grounds for grievous miscommunication, and STUPID !!!

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Wow. Everyone is certainly entitled to their own opinion, but that is a bit over the top. I have certainly received texts at times where a phone conversation was not really possible, that made me smile. And I think I have sent texts which did the same.

If a person continually texted and would not talk and wanted to get to know me through texts, then I would somewhat agree. But, I think it can be used in a very positive way as an additional communication tool.
 
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livinagin wrote :
Texting separates the old "frats" from the new ones.

You'll be hard pressed to find somebody of the younger generation ardently opposed to texting so I think you hit the nail on the head here.
 
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I text. But like others said, not as a means to get to know someone. I will do it when I'm someplace not conducive to a phone call, ie a bar or a concert or someplace equally loud. Or when I don't have time for a phone call, just to say "remember, our date is at 6pm tonight", kinda thing. And to me it depends on the other person, how tech savvy are they? I don't think the guy I am currently getting to know would be a guy to text, so I gauge it on that as well. I do not like to have long drawn out conversations via text, back and forth, like instant messaging. That is just wrong. I'd rather see you face to face (I'm not a great talker on the phone). But with the younger generation, I know people who almost exclusively use their phone as a texting device, and if you call them will not answer, but will promptly respond to a text. So it's all in the situation, and you have to know who/what you are dealing with.
 
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