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dddthick is offline dddthick Post #1  October 21,2010, 5:46pm
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Ok my delimma is that it's hard for me to meet men. I notice guys looking at me all of the time but they don't approach me. It's very frustrating I get told that I am attractive so what is the problem. I'm newly single and ready to mingle so how do I get guys to approach me with out coming across desperate.
 
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Can you give us detail, detail, and more detail, about the types of situations in which this most vexing of problems occurs?
 
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Look at them and give them a

If they are obtuse, then add this:
 
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Look at them and give them a

If they are obtuse, then add this:

When that fails, try:
 
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dddthick wrote :
Ok my delimma is that it's hard for me to meet men. I notice guys looking at me all of the time but they don't approach me. It's very frustrating I get told that I am attractive so what is the problem. I'm newly single and ready to mingle so how do I get guys to approach me with out coming across desperate.
Eye contact, look at them just a bit longer, go out of your way to walk past them and look into their eyes as you walk by and smile, big smile.
 
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6dle899 wrote :
Look at them and give them a

If they are obtuse, then add this:
Great points. Note, dress to be approachable. Sometimes it is the most beautiful woman in the bar that doesn’t get any contact...

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dddthick wrote :
Ok my delimma is that it's hard for me to meet men. I notice guys looking at me all of the time but they don't approach me. It's very frustrating I get told that I am attractive so what is the problem. I'm newly single and ready to mingle so how do I get guys to approach me with out coming across desperate.
I almost always smile back whenever anyone makes eye contact with me, wether male or female, as long as the person looks decent and nice. It is just a habit to greet with strange ppl on street to show decent respect. It is almost an unconscious habit without thinking.

When a guy looks at me, I find it nicer when he is already smiling when making eye contact. But sometimes they may just look at the opposite sex that caught their attention without actively seeking contacts. Kind of unconscious gaze. Some people may not be very smily by nature. Some of them may be too shy to approach a strange woman.

But if you smile, they'd smile back. Then they'd say "hi" if they wish. Or you can say "hi" with smile.

It is very simple.
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This is good stuff!

I think I missed "Flirting 101" when I was in school. There would be tons of guys with crushes on me who would never approach me or ask me out. I'm still working on learning that this isn't high school, and I won't be stuck with the same results the rest of my life! So learning new ways to do things is good.
 
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Seems the posters above me have missed the most obvious method. Why don't you approach these guys?
 
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At the risk of stating the *VERY* OBVIOUS,


Please do NOT be "texting" or talking into that cursed mobile electronic portable messaging device that every female on the face of the earth has, and uses it 99% of the time everywhere they go, except when they are in bed sleeping.


It is an absolute foolproof way NOT to meet someone.

Guaranteed.
 
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