Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  October 21,2010, 2:26pm
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I read this quote from from a book review for Before You Suffocate Your Own Fool Self:

"Appreciate the liars. When people don't hide things, it means they don't care about losing you."

Agree? Disagree? What does the quote mean to you in your personal dating life?

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A couple of things:

I just realized that I missed the "s" in the title of the thread... liars.

I take the quote to mean lying by omission... meaning, holding back the negative parts of who you are/past experiences... not necessarily little white lies or outright cheating. Thoughts?
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Ok..had to read that a few times since it has some double negatives...LOL...

But..I think it's hogwash...So I will lie because I care about someone? Seems a little silly to me...I don't appreciate anything about lying....even the 'no, those jeans don't make your butt look big'...haha...that won't help me look good in public!!

I am honest to a fault when it comes to most things...Yes...I have lied in my past and am sure I will lie again with small things and I try to work on this each day...but when it comes to dating/relationships...I am very honest and upfront and hopefully do this with care...People think that by lying..you are sparing someone's feelings...

As we see from many posts on here and from most lies..that is more to soothe the 'teller's' feelings..not the other person...if I am not feeling chemistry or clicking with a guy..I will be honest and sincere....If my guy asks me whether I care for a certain food/movie/etc...and it happens to be his favorite...I don't lie..I just say.."that is not my personal taste..tell me what you love about it"....truthful but kind..

Just like when I think the guy is extremely caring and sexy as all get out to me...I will tell him!!! (Along with a huge kiss...LOL)
 
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When I lie, it's usually for my own convenience - like not having to go into in depth explanations. Skipping a few things or slightly changing a story to get to the point is hardly heinous, but it's something I do a lot so I feel bad. I've lied out of pride, too...

I really can't think of a situation when I lied for someone else's benefit or what an acceptable situation would be.
 
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Complete rubbish! If you care about someone you won't do something that you will have to lie about to show you care!

An example, I sleep with Bob and lie to Jim my husband about it. Why yes, that lie shows I care about losing Jim. Then again wouldn't not sleeping with Bob send a better message of caring?
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
I think it's hogwash...So I will lie because I care about someone?
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Complete rubbish! If you care about someone you won't do something that you will have to lie about to show you care!
Couldn't have said it better myself!
 
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Moved to OP ^
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Actually, I appreciate liars because they make the better people more easy to spot.

I can't agree with the quote. It makes no sense that I would lie to my SO as a symbol of my love for them.
 
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I never ever lie! That's the honest truth!

(except when girlfriend asks if her jeans make her look fat! or which shoes make her legs look nicer)
 
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PY_2 wrote :
I never ever lie! That's the honest truth!

(except when girlfriend asks if her jeans make her look fat! or which shoes make her legs look nicer)
But other than that never ever, huh?
 
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Actually, I appreciate liars because they make the better people more easy to spot.
Exactly right!
 
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