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Raw_Truth is online now Raw_Truth Post #1  October 20,2010, 11:04am
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I made mention elsewhere that I was going to employ the services of a personal matchmaker and would post my experiences. I started last week and now have my first report.

My matchmaker called me Friday evening and says though she usually goes through a much more formal process to discuss matches she said just go have fun this weekend with this particular girl. She emails me a name, number and a stunning photo.

She was every bit as stunning in person, is touchy-feely, and had a great personality but she works weekends (I have a typical M-F work week) and committed some first date sins (answered her phone, discussed her ex, and actually got sleepy toward the end). Still, I think she's fantastic and we part with her being very forward about a second date during the week.

We text a bit during the next day but just before I was to call to discuss the 2nd date she texts and says she can't talk as she's out with friends. We text a bit the following day; when I call she sounds like she's been up for 3 days straight - just exhausted. Chitchat is slow, and when I ask about her schedule she says, "well, maybe a movie on Sunday after work."

Meh, that was enough for me. It seemed she was very interested but mostly her working weekends is a deal breaker, and either she doesn't get enough sleep or her interest faded. Either way my matchmaker understood without reservation (I was expecting her to put up a bit of a fight but maybe this girl has a history) and has another match to introduce me to.
 
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Thanks for posting about matchmaking -- could you tell us what the process was? How does a matchmaker pick someone for you?

Do you think it's better in some way than sites like EH?
 
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Special-K is offline Special-K Post #3  October 20,2010, 11:13am
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I'm sorry this happened to you, but admire that you are trying a variety of avenues in search of "her."

Her first date faux pas should have been a warning, but I'm betting her striking good looks helped keep things going...

Good luck and keep up posted!
 
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Maybe I missed your original post...I did post a thread before about how much one would pay to find that special someone.


What did you sign up for...a flat fee for a period of time or a number of matches?

It seems an important piece in this would be someone that matches your work schedule...not someone that works something opposite because then its impossible to meet up.

What kind of info did this matchmaker ask you?


Are these women from Russia?
 
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Getting sleepy is a sin?

It sounds like this is all going to be an interesting process for you. Good luck!
 
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As to the process, there is an interview, background check and portfolio and profile to complete. She knows everyone personally she works with, and with some basics that each client is looking for in addition to what she thinks will work, she matches people up.

As to this vs. online dating, well, this is no light endeavor; after all is said and done it's ~$5,000 which gets a person 6-8 introductions within a 12 month period. I don't think it's comparable. In the least there is significant filtering before you meet someone.

As to this particular situation, I knew that my matchmaker wasn't going to let me off easy. She said she does not serve up fairy tales - if I'm going to wait till everything's perfect I'll burn through my contract in a month. She strongly suggested I meet this girl again. I caved and agreed.

As to nationalitiy, funny that is asked, yes, this particular woman was originally from the Ukraine but has been in the US for a while and is a US citizen. Not exactly sure how/why she got here though, but I guess I see where that question is leading. Most of her recruiting is by word of mouth or by her pursuing clients. This gal I met my matchmaker was actually a client of hers and asked if she'd be interested in matchmaking services.
 
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Is there a story behind the Russian question? Reason I ask is that I have a friend who is in a matchmaking service. He was also matched with a girl originally from Russia. She is a citizen in the US now. Thought I would ask on his behalf.

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Probably just because there are a lot of Russian dating sites and people often think it's easier to get a Russian wife than a non Russian wife.
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If you want, this may fall into this group if you're interested.

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Just as clarification, this is not a dating website, and there is no database of profiles clients get unfettered access to. She generally brings clients to her office to discuss/choose matches. If she thinks it's a strong match she will email a pic and a brief description and followup with a phone call to discuss details.
 
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