How did I fail at what seemed so sure??


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talldrinkowater is offline talldrinkowater Post #1  October 19,2010, 5:24pm
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Hello again everyone!!

Back in August I went to my high school reunion...I had a great time and it was nice seeing so many familiar faces in one place. I am seriously considering moving and one gentleman had told me a web site he used to compare cities. He bought me a drink and we talked for some time, but I went on to mingle with everyone. When leaving, I made sure I thanked him for the drink and said good bye.

I had lost the paper with the web site and his number so I contacted a mutual friend. He had said "wow, you must have made some impression on him, he hasn't stopped talking about you." I didn't ask what was said, only that I had hoped it was a good impression. So, I called him to get the web site - got his voice mail...he immediately called back and we talked for an hour. He informed me he's not tech savvy, does not use email or facebook, only recently got a cell, and doesn't even know how to text, but he'd try to figure some of it out to keep in contact with me.

Well, to the point...that was about 2 months ago...I tried calling one other time and left a message with my number....still not a word. I mentioned to the mutual friend that the impression I made must not have been a lasting one because I'd not heard another word. He said "I'm not so sure about that, I haven't heard from him either and he doesn't know how to retrieve phone numbers on his cell so you have to speak your number in the message and that the last he'd talked to him he couldn't figure out how to get his phone from going directly to voicemail." So, I tried again 2-3 days ago...again directly to voicemail and no word back.

If I'd made such an impression, how can I have failed so miserably???
 
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I work in the Telco Industry. When I first started out, it was trying to help people over the phone with how to use their phones.

If your mutual friend is telling the truth - that 2-3 months on and he still doesn't know how to switch off all calls forwarding to voicemail, he may also have difficulty in retrieving the message ... as opposed to the voicemail service ringing him back with the messages. Which, of course, would not be working if he has an all calls forwarding to voicemail on!

Could you ask your mutual friend for another contact number for him? I don't believe you have failed ... he sounds all too like many, many customers I have dealt with over the years who just don't 'get' technology. Even little mobile phones!
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Based on what your mutual friend has said I am thinking that it is not you who has failed. It is the guy. He has failed in the world of technology. It is ashamed that he did not give you some method of communication with which he was at least marginally competent.
 
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This is so unbelievable, that it has gone completely out the other side and become believable again.

So, tell the mutual friend a way to contact you!

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Or, have them pass the word, to meet at Rick's club, on the second Saturday after the next full moon, where you'll wear a skin-tight yellow dress and red flower (or was that a skin-tight red dress and yellow flower ... help!), where you'll show the bloke, over cards and bourbon, how to use a cell phone like you mean it.

Once he has the basics of answering and retrieving calls, lean in and whisper in his ear "I know how to make this thing take pictures ..."
 
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The mutual friend also said "I'm afraid he may just be socially awkward after being in the mountains so long." I don't want to give up hope because we do have a lot in common and there definitely seemed to have been a mutual attaction, but I also don't want to feel like I should just get the hint already and move along!

I will ask for an alternate number.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
This is so unbelievable, that it has gone completely out the other side and become believable again.

So, tell the mutual friend a way to contact you!

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Or, have them pass the word, to meet at Rick's club, on the second Saturday after the next full moon, where you'll wear a skin-tight yellow dress and red flower (or was that a skin-tight red dress and yellow flower ... help!), where you'll show the bloke, over cards and bourbon, how to use a cell phone like you mean it.

Once he has the basics of answering and retrieving calls, lean in and whisper in his ear "I know how to make this thing take pictures ..."
Why is it unbelievable?

I don't really want to put the mutual friend in the middle of things - seems rather school yardish, no? However, I will ask if there's an alternate way of contacting him. I can't do the "meet me here on this day" thing either because I'm in Tennessee and he is in Colorado.

Now the picture thing...yeah, that does sound like something I'd joke about.
 
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talldrinkowater wrote :
Why is it unbelievable?

It made for an extra-funny post.

It's also unbelievable because it's unbelievable.
 
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Hey Lady......where have you been?

It's funny that the link between the two of you was initially the website he was going to refer you to. Lol. You know......not being tech savvy.

I actually think that DL kind of has a point. The friend may be the link to communication. After all, the friend is the one who told you that this guy couldn't stop talking about you. It was also the friend that clued you in about his inability to retrieve messages, etc. I really think that if you want to communicate with him, you should ask the friend to let him know that you would like to talk. Like you said, ask for an alternative number, plus, give him a number to reach you.

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LDJ is offline LDJ Post #9  October 19,2010, 6:22pm
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Keep trying, sometimes love is like this!

What about smoke signals?
 
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I actually think that DL kind of has a point.

That's putting it mildly!
 
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