neko88 is offline neko88 Post #1  October 18,2010, 1:48am
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Mythical is offline Mythical Post #2  October 18,2010, 3:48am
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He's just not that into you... right now.

You sound desperate in your post. If he's reading ANY of that, he may not see you as worthy to pursue. Or some other flame grabbed his interest for now. Stupid men. You deserve someone better than that.

Sign him off. Done. Over. Be friendly, but don't go out of your way for him anymore.
 
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ISearch4Love is offline ISearch4Love Post #3  October 18,2010, 5:35am
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Quit texting and start calling. A lot of people don't like communicating through text messages.

When you call be friendly but don't sound desperate, that can be a real turn off. Everyone's personality is different so there's no way of knowing if he's "into you" or not as the previous poster suggested. Don't write him off, keep talking to him and see how things go.
 
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chimerical is offline chimerical Post #4  October 18,2010, 10:09am
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ISearch4Love wrote :
Quit texting and start calling. A lot of people don't like communicating through text messages.
And a lot of people vastly prefer texting to phone calls. The trick to knowing which he prefers? Read the OP. He texted her first. Therefore, that is probably his preferred communication style.

To the OP: Write him off. Find other people/things to occupy your mind. He's either feeling wishy-washy about it or he's found someone else. The only thing you'll achieve by worrying about it is you'll come off as desperate. The best thing about writing him off is, you can't lose. Either you're right, and he's gone, or you're wrong, and you get to be pleasantly surprised down the road.

Of course, he could turn out to just be a poor communicator. If you find that to be the case, you're probably just a bad match, and I'd have to say, "Steer clear"--unless you like the angst and uncertainty you're feeling now...
 
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Just tell him.

You'll never know without taking a shot. If he says yes, he'll be incredibly flattered, more so if he's shy.

Good luck!
 
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Neko,

I am not an expert…

However, if he is anything like me I would recommend acting happy and confident for the next several days. Every time you see him do your best to be cheerful and happy regardless of your frustration. Keep the lines of communication open but do NOT be too eager. Let him do the pursuing. Let him do things for you. One of my greatest pleasures in life was doing nice things for my former wife.

Men get satisfaction from what they do. This is why many men feel less than a man when they are out of work.

However, when he makes an effort please ensure that you reward him to reinforce his good deeds.

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neko88 is offline neko88 Post #7  October 19,2010, 12:59am
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robv_la is offline robv_la Post #8  October 19,2010, 4:17pm
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It's probably not good to be dating someone at work anyway...so if he does give his notice...and you are still interested, then be bold and simply ask him out...like hey since you are leaving, why don't me and you go to someplacehelikes as a congratulations?

If he is interested as well, he'll jump at the chance. If not, he won't.
 
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livinagin is offline livinagin Post #9  October 19,2010, 5:12pm
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Maybe he wants to change jobs so he can date you?

However, if he is dating someone else, that would be a hint that he found something more interesting in another woman. And if that is the case, he will frustrate the carp out of you (i.e. Mr. Hot/Cold).
 
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