Would a girl date a guy if she dident want to be in a relationship?


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radChad is offline radChad Post #1  October 17,2010, 8:20pm
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would a girl date a guy if she dident want to be in a relationship? if your dating a guy are you looking for a relationship, or do girls also date even when they are not looking to be in a relationship?
 
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Yes for All sorts of reasons and none of them are going to be for any good for you if u want a relationship. They are just female players and are identical to there male counterparts
 
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ForwardUntoDawn wrote :
Yes for All sorts of reasons and none of them are going to be for any good for you if u want a relationship. They are just female players and are identical to there male counterparts
You don't have to be a "player" to be dating and not looking for a relationship. You are only a "player" if you are dishonest about it.

To answer the OP: Yes, men and women both date sometimes without wanting a commitment. You need to be clear about what you are looking for with your dates. If you want a long-term relationship and she doesn't, you should probably move on. It's possible that you will change her mind, but unlikely.

Some people date short-term just for sex, or just for companionship, or just for entertainment. Doing so does not make someone a "bad person." It's being deliberately deceptive about your goals that makes you a bad person.
 
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Why not?

A girl can date a guy for whatever reason she wants, just like a guy can.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #5  October 18,2010, 3:11am
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Of course a woman may date without having a long term relationship in mind and there are many reasons for that.

Another factor to consider is that just because someone is looking for a serious relationship that does not mean that they want it with you. While she is looking Mr. Right, she may well date Mr. Right Now.
 
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chimerical wrote :
You don't have to be a "player" to be dating and not looking for a relationship. You are only a "player" if you are dishonest about it.

To answer the OP: Yes, men and women both date sometimes without wanting a commitment. You need to be clear about what you are looking for with your dates. If you want a long-term relationship and she doesn't, you should probably move on. It's possible that you will change her mind, but unlikely.

Some people date short-term just for sex, or just for companionship, or just for entertainment. Doing so does not make someone a "bad person." It's being deliberately deceptive about your goals that makes you a bad person.
The mere fact the OP asked this question proves that there are a lot of people out there who aren't aware of what you just said. I agree that being deliberately deceptive is what makes the person dishonest, but in my experience lying by omission isn't any different than deliberately misleading someone. Most people aren't going to stop in the middle of passionate kissing and ask, "Hey is this leading somewhere besides just the bedroom?" LOL!

People who are only after satisfying their needs usually aren't very forthcoming about their intentions or are deliberately vague so as not to scare off their victim, oops, I meant partner, LOL! I also agree with you that this is not a "gender" issue it is a personality issue. I've got some girlfriends who are real sharks - - no one gets away from them without teeth marks. When they're done the poor guy never knew what hit him, LOL!

Thanks for telling it like it is.
 
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Diana_P wrote :
Most people aren't going to stop in the middle of passionate kissing and ask, "Hey is this leading somewhere besides just the bedroom?" LOL!

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And if I did, and if she answered in the negative, I'd likely go into the bedroom with her anyway ...

... figuring I can bring it up again tomorrow (if I remember.) If not, how well she enjoyed her night bears upon her choice of partner, anyway. (Sometimes it's best to just have some confidence.)

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To the OP,

Terms like "date" and "relationship" are vague in the best of circumstances - it's best to clarifiy precisely what you want and expect, and request the same from your partner.
 
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To the OP,

Terms like "date" and "relationship" are vague in the best of circumstances - it's best to clarifiy precisely what you want and expect, and request the same from your partner.
I think I read a thread on a different board that labeled it muliple dating.. Some people may date more than one person as they are looking for Mr. /Ms. Right until they make a choice and have a talk about the relationship status is...
 
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Women can do the causal dating thing just like guys can. Women can do the friends with benefits thing just like guys can. I think when it becomes an issue is when one is looking for a relationship and the other one isn't. More times than not, the one looking for a relationship is going to get his/her heart broken. I believe this is definitely true when you add casual sex to the mix. That will almost surely wind up breaking someone's heart.
 
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wheel_on_fire is offline wheel_on_fire Post #10  October 20,2010, 5:36am
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I can give you a definite "yes" answer to that question. I was in a situation like this earlier this year where I was the person interested in a relationship and she was just looking for a casual dating partner. She was pretty honest about her goals but it still ended up as a pretty painful situation for me. I can only imagine how bad I would have felt if she hadn't been up front about her intentions.
 
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