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boschimsp is offline boschimspAdvice Member-Moderator Post #21  January 26,2012, 12:59pm
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Dafearon wrote :
It also sounds to me that you might not be as clear in your signals as you should be. As a guy on a date, we need to feel that what we're doing is wanted. If he can't see that because of his inexperience, shyness, or through your failure to communicate interest, its almost like a cold call for him which can be extremely nerve wrecking.
I agree with this. I had a similar problem to you in the past so I actually changed my approach. I try to do little things that indicate I'm interested and it has worked much, much better. If he started to initiate and didn't feel like you were reciprocating he might be just as confused as to why you're not being affectionate.

Or it could be he likes your company but isn't sure a romantic/physical connection is there. I've had my share of that too.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #22  January 26,2012, 1:24pm
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If he hasn't kissed her by now (i.e., during the intervening 15 months since she posted), I'm pretty sure it's not going to happen! (Although, one could always wait another year to see if things pick up...)
 
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Ha! I didn't even notice that it had been so long. Neardc, I can completely imagine a new thread..."It's been a year, keep waiting???" Lol!
 
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scully98 wrote :
this post is from 2010.
Maybe they're still confused.
 
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Well, if nothing else, we got a good laugh at their expense! Hope they've made it to square one by now!
 
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I've been on six dates with a guy, and I'm confused. He hasn't tried to do anything other than kiss me, and even that, only barely. On our first date, he didn't even try to kiss me, but then he gave me a quick kiss in the car at the end of our second date. And then, on our third date, he walked me to mydoor and kissed me on my porch. it was more of a full-body hug, followed by a longer kiss of about a minute.

then, fourth date and fifth dates, the same. and then our sixth date, last night, we watched a movie at my house and it started out nicely with him rubbing my back a little, and patting my leg a couple of times during the first half hour of the movie, but then, nothing else physical. it was strange that he stopped trying to touch me.

finally, when the movie ended, I thought that we'd listen to music and perhaps kiss a little on my couch. but instead, he checked the football score on his phone, and I offered to switch to the football game for the final quarter. he liked that idea, so we spent the next half hour watching the final quarter of the game. again, thought perhaps we'd kiss a little afterward. but it was 11:20 p.m. by then (but a Friday night), and he said, "well, it's been a really long week and I'm really tired, so I guess I'll call it a night."

and he got up and put on his shoes and I walked him to the door, and he kissed me (but I left my arms crossed while he did it, because I was so taken aback by his quick departure and I was feeling a little hurt),so he didn't try to hug me and he didn't do a more in-depth French kiss, just two quick pecks on the lips.

I'm totally confused whether this guy is into me. I've never known a guy to go on six dates with a girl and not try anything other than a quick peck on the lips. Everything else points to him being interested. He calls me a lot, asks me out 1-2 times a week, etc. We've known each other for five weeks now. I just thought that by now, he'd try more than a fast kiss at the end of the date. But maybe this is normal? I don't know.
Too many of you demand instant gratification. If I tried going as fast as this man did, with my luck, I'd be accused of rushing things.
 
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For every woman who wonders why a guy doesn't kiss her, there's another who complains about a guy moving too fast. Not every woman puts off the obvious signals either. The best you can hope for is for subtle initiations of physical contact and then judge how they are received.

A hand in the small of her back is probably the best barometer I've come across.
 
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