tb440 is offline tb440 Post #1  October 15,2010, 9:25pm
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They say that 1st impressions count - so when I meet a guy now & he hasn't made much of an effort to scrub up or dress like its a reasonably special occasion - that's exactly what u end up with - a bloke who doesn't really care, or has his mind elsewhere! From now on, they won't be even going out on the 1st one with me - especially if they don't look anything like their pic on E-Harmony, or the info they give in person deviates from what they have given on line - I want contenders - NOT pretenders!!
 
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tb440 wrote :
They say that 1st impressions count - so when I meet a guy now & he hasn't made much of an effort to scrub up or dress like its a reasonably special occasion - that's exactly what u end up with - a bloke who doesn't really care, or has his mind elsewhere! From now on, they won't be even going out on the 1st one with me - especially if they don't look anything like their pic on E-Harmony, or the info they give in person deviates from what they have given on line - I want contenders - NOT pretenders!!
Yep, so true, have had many who's pics were ten years old or didn't match their height at all. Don't care so much about the height but pics that were 10 years old were real mind blowers. It would be so nice if men and women didn't play games with who they really are. How in the heck do people figure that they can find the love of their life if they are playing not only mind games but physical games?

Recently had a guy who I thought was incredible over the phone. He was supposed to call tonight to set up a date for tomorrow after being out of the country for three weeks, didn't do it. Oh well, just another in the long list of guys who didn't follow through with what they said they were going to do. I always follow through and am who I say I am. Not into games, just want to find someone who is real, how hard is that? Apparently very hard.
 
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Yep, so true, have had many who's pics were ten years old or didn't match their height at all. Don't care so much about the height but pics that were 10 years old were real mind blowers. It would be so nice if men and women didn't play games with who they really are. How in the heck do people figure that they can find the love of their life if they are playing not only mind games but physical games?

Recently had a guy who I thought was incredible over the phone. He was supposed to call tonight to set up a date for tomorrow after being out of the country for three weeks, didn't do it. Oh well, just another in the long list of guys who didn't follow through with what they said they were going to do. I always follow through and am who I say I am. Not into games, just want to find someone who is real, how hard is that? Apparently very hard.
There are those of us that do what we say we will do, but I think these days we are a rarer breed, it takes some work we are out there though if you so desire us bad enough you will continue being yourself, one of the things I love about my girlfriend who I met on EH, and find that guy who does execute and who you can be yourself around without changing who you are with the hope that he feels the same when he is around you.
 
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Yep, so true, have had many who's pics were ten years old or didn't match their height at all. Don't care so much about the height but pics that were 10 years old were real mind blowers.
I always think, "I wonder if I look a lot different in real life than I do in pictures?" and it makes me paranoid to have anything other than really recent photos up.

No one's ever commented about it but we all have our quirks I guess
 
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One time, I had this girl on a date. and and and and we ate breadsticks
 
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I always think, "I wonder if I look a lot different in real life than I do in pictures?" and it makes me paranoid to have anything other than really recent photos up.

No one's ever commented about it but we all have our quirks I guess
I have yet to meet the match that I thought looked like her photo. But I don't do well recognizing people from photos so I just don't get too bent out of shape if I don't think they look like their photos. I go more on how they are in person.
 
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tb440 wrote :
They say that 1st impressions count - so when I meet a guy now & he hasn't made much of an effort to scrub up or dress like its a reasonably special occasion - that's exactly what u end up with - a bloke who doesn't really care, or has his mind elsewhere! From now on, they won't be even going out on the 1st one with me - especially if they don't look anything like their pic on E-Harmony, or the info they give in person deviates from what they have given on line - I want contenders - NOT pretenders!!
A rant I presume
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #8  October 16,2010, 10:12am
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A rant I presume
Or you could call it venting.
 
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