First Date/Meeting Someone...How soon?


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collegelauren1214 is offline collegelauren1214 Post #1  October 15,2010, 8:19pm
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I've been going through different links, trying to see if anyone has posted this question before so I didn't repeat what others had asked. However, seeing as I couldn't find anything, I thought I would ask for everyone's opinion.

How soon should you wait before meeting someone in person? I was matched with a guy on October 12th, and we started talking that day, and we have been e-mailing and texting non-stop since then. There seems to be a great connection, however, I don't know if it is too soon to meet, or how long I should wait. Any suggestions?
 
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When I am using eHarmony, I suggest meeting for the first or second weekend after reaching Open Communication.

If your match has not sugggested meeting in time for this weekend, I think you are best off to do so yourself.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
When I am using eHarmony, I suggest meeting for the first or second weekend after reaching Open Communication.
That seems right for me.

And I say, do that in the second or third open communication message - not the first.
 
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The pattern for meeting face to face...

From the time you start sending emails back and forther (whatever site you use)

if you have a few back and forth emails seem to go well then you exchange numbers and talk...and then you meet.

The goal is roughly meeting in 2 weeks from the time you get to the email exchanges depending of course on their response rate.

If you are a couple hrs apart then your goal is to meet in 3-4 weeks by finding a day you both are off and then one drives to the other or you meet half way.

If its a farther then you should talk longer. If you figure you will need to fly...then you look at 2-3 months to meet.

You dont need to talk on the phone before meeting...that is not a prerequiste.

Also when you meet someone local then you want it to be something simple and noncommital like meeting for coffee, meeting at a bookstore, meeting at a museum, meeting at a street fair...a place where you can easily end it when you want.
 
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Everyone is different! You have to go with what is comfortable for both of you. There is no set answer to this question.
 
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I like to suggest meeting after about a week of Open Communication e-mails. Therefore this would be about the time I would expect to be setting something up. Depending on how your schedules are and if you both are open to meeting during the week then you could sometime the middle of next week or you may prefer to wait until the weekend. If it was a long distance match then the first meeting may be a little farther out because of the planning involved.

Bottom line is that you cannot judge "chemistry" except in person. Therefore you should meet as soon as possible and you are comfortable meeting.
 
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Sooner is better than later, to avoid getting caught up in fantasy about someone you've never met, and also to take advantage of the momentum of just recently getting into contact. And, if it doesn't go anywhere, you haven't spent a whole lot of time on it, and are sooner free to pay attention to other matches. Good luck!
 
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