The "I just got out of a bad relationship" deflector


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #1  October 13,2010, 12:53pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Saw this in a commercial recently.

At the end of a first date man walks woman to her door. After an awkward pause she says "...I just got out of a bad relationship...." to avoid his trying for a first kiss. He replies "That's ok", smiles and says good night.

How does that strike you? Do women really say things like this? If you date needs to compensate for the fact that you have just gotten out of a bad relationship....should you even be dating? Or, is saying this type of thing just a way to manipulate your date?

.....and then after her date leaves her jealous ex-bf (who was watching her from the bushes) breaks down her front door. Good thing she subscribed to that home security company. lol
 
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Yes, they do, who knows why? Treat them with kid gloves? Therapy is too expensive?
I really don't want to hear this on a date, does anyone?

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Do women really say things like this? If you date needs to compensate for the fact that you have just gotten out of a bad relationship....should you even be dating? Or, is saying this type of thing just a way to manipulate your date?

Good thing she subscribed to that home security company. lol
 
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jayjay wrote :
Saw this in a commercial recently.

At the end of a first date man walks woman to her door. After an awkward pause she says "...I just got out of a bad relationship...." to avoid his trying for a first kiss. He replies "That's ok", smiles and says good night.

How does that strike you? Do women really say things like this? If you date needs to compensate for the fact that you have just gotten out of a bad relationship....should you even be dating? Or, is saying this type of thing just a way to manipulate your date?

.....and then after her date leaves her jealous ex-bf (who was watching her from the bushes) breaks down her front door. Good thing she subscribed to that home security company. lol
I've dated the recently-divorced "I want to take things slow" kind of man before. No comment on the "should you be dating at this point," though--it's hard to know when you should or shouldn't be dating. It's a big gray area. And sometimes, dating is the best thing to help you move on.

I don't think I'd ever say this, though. I don't really know what other people mean when they say "bad" relationship, but when I got out of my least-fulfilling relationship, I was raring to go--not looking to hold back.
 
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jayjay wrote :
Saw this in a commercial recently.

At the end of a first date man walks woman to her door. After an awkward pause she says "...I just got out of a bad relationship...." to avoid his trying for a first kiss. He replies "That's ok", smiles and says good night.

How does that strike you? Do women really say things like this? If you date needs to compensate for the fact that you have just gotten out of a bad relationship....should you even be dating? Or, is saying this type of thing just a way to manipulate your date?

.....and then after her date leaves her jealous ex-bf (who was watching her from the bushes) breaks down her front door. Good thing she subscribed to that home security company. lol
I haven't really gotten that (yet, I guess)... But if I did, I'd probably say something to the extent of "So?" or "Good for you!".

I can honestly say, I would be baffled at what she was trying to imply by that.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  October 13,2010, 1:11pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I can honestly say, I would be baffled at what she was trying to imply by that.
My interpretation of that from the commercial was along the lines of "I want to take things slow" or, specifically, "I don't want you to kiss me right now".

Also, statements along this line strike me as bait to see if a man will act like a 'nice guy'..... or be assertive in what he wants.
 
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Yup.. I've heard it, and this is why I have a phone calls prior to the first meets, I've also seen a few variations of that statement in way too many profiles lately.

Should they be dating? probably not, but we all know friends and family give bad advice after a breakup.

 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #7  October 13,2010, 1:18pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Should they be dating? probably not, but we all know friends and family give bad advice after a breakup.
...and at least they are contributing to the economy by subscribing to dating site.
 
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Hope I don't get one like that. Who wants to waste their time on someone that shouldn't even be dating. ..
 
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What was the commercial for...eharmony????
 
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What was the commercial for...eharmony????
I think it was Brinks home security.. not positive
 
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